Culture. This may or may not be a word that you are familiar with, especially in your marriage. Honestly, this was not a word used a lot in our household until the last few years; however, by being intentional about creating a healthy marriage culture, our relationship has thrived.

 

Four Ways to Co-Create the Marriage Culture You Want?

A healthy culture does not happen organically. Effort and intentionality are the key ingredients when creating your culture. Alex made it clear that if we don’t create our culture it will become what we tolerate. It’s what we allow to happen in our marriage. We can be passive and allow anything and everything into our marriages, or we can be intentional and co-create a culture conducive to health, growth, and happiness.

Start with a Family Meeting

One person cannot create the culture in your marriage. When one person comes in and starts throwing all kinds of rules at people, they will rebel against them. Make this a family activity. By doing this together, you will find out what is important to everyone. If everyone is on board it will make things a lot easier.

Co-Create Rituals

As a family talk through some things that will be expected on a regular basis. These should be clear and simple things, to begin with.

Co-create values, mission, and purpose for your marriage

How do we create values, mission, and purpose? You have to start by finding out what is important to you and your family. You can do this by asking yourself and your family these questions.

What do you want people to say about your marriage and family?

• Do you want your marriage to be known for its kindness?

• Would you like your children to be known for how respectful they are to others?

• Do you want your family to be mission-minded and active in the community?

 

There are so many more questions that could be asked here, but use these as a starting point. 

Co-create a Culture Board

Then the Lord answered me and said, “Write the vision and engrave it plainly on [clay] tablets so that the one who reads it will run. Habakkuk 2:2

Find a way to keep your culture visible to everyone. Write it out and put it on the refrigerator. Get creative as a family and create a culture board. Design a family seal that reminds you who you are. Whatever it takes to make it plain so everyone can help create it, and walk it out.

The goal is to get everyone on the same page so your culture can thrive and so can your marriage and family.

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