Do you struggle with martyr-mom syndrome?  Are you so busy meeting other's needs that your own go unmet and then you begin to resent the people around you for not meeting your needs?  If so, you are not alone.  Learning to be a non-anxious presence in our homes requires that we take charge of our own needs in such a way that helps us show up authentically and respect those around us.  In this episode, Andie gives four steps to learning to take charge of your own needs, which is especially important during the busy holiday season.  She discusses the Circle of Control vs the Circle of Concern and how we can use that tool to discover what legitimate needs really are.  It is possible to care about the needs of others and take responsibility for meeting your own needs at the same time.  Listen and learn how.