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EPISODE 142: Understanding The Trauma Triangle Within Your Relationships


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In the intricate dance of relationships, understanding the dynamics at play is crucial for fostering healthy connections. One such concept that sheds light on the complexities within relationships is the Trauma Triangle. This model illuminates the roles individuals may unconsciously adopt in response to trauma, leading to cyclical patterns of conflict and dysfunction. In this episode, Joel and Emily unravel the intricate interplay of victimhood, rescuing, and persecution, shedding light on how these roles can subtly shape our interactions. Whether you're navigating romantic partnerships, friendships, or familial connections, this episode offers valuable tools for fostering healthier and more authentic relationships. 

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Show notes:

01:02 - Introduction about making a decision or choice on things we can and cannot control

03:50 - Defining the Trauma Triangle

  • 06:05 - Characteristics of Each Role in Trauma Triangle

    • 07:44 - The Victim

    • 08:34 - The Rescuer

    • 11:10 - The Persecutor

    • 15:43 - Downside of constantly being a Rescuer

      • having no boundaries

      • 20:40 - Breaking free from these Triangle Trauma

        • Negations and Affirmation

        • 23:00 - Switching from being a Rescuer to a Coach

          26:17 - Setting Boundaries in each role

          • importance of communication

          • start acting to be more in life with yourself 

          • 29:35 - Tools to break-free from the Trauma Triangle 

            • recognizing where you fall in the role

            • creating some space

            • embracing the uncomfortable

            • 34:32 - Upregulating yourself by writing things out

              • education & integration

              • 41:36 - Emily’s stand on setting boundaries and why is it important

                • cultivating healthy relationships

                • 49:55 - The importance of communication to break-free from Trauma Triangle

                  • staying curious

                  • assessing yourself

                  • 55:41 - Most important takeaway of Trauma Triangle

                    • having a fallback 

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