"We have all been through a lot in our lives. The difference is some of us CHOOSE not to be a victim."

I belong to a few mommy Facebook groups and I need to call out a trend I’m seeing, because it is DRIVING ME CRAZY.

Ya’ll. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE.

Here are some examples of things I’ve seen posted recently:

“I wish I could ask for a raise because I think I deserve it, but I’m afraid my boss will say no”

“I am the WORST mom for… (insert thing almost EVERY mom has done but doesn’t admit)”

“My husband never does the dishes, I really wish he would so I could spend more time with the kids”

Now, I am not saying that sometimes life doesn’t hand us a shit sandwich. Your furnace goes out so you have to drop $5k on a new one and can’t swing extras right now (been there). Your asshole boss skips over you for a travel opportunity because you’re a working mom. You FEEL like the worst mom ever for not matching up to the idolized Pinterest mom. Your husband doesn’t pull his weight around the house (thank GOD Ryan is a total saint and does more than his fair “share'“).

It feels EASY to sit at a the pity party of women bitching about their husbands, going on and on about their money woes and thinking they’re never good enough. That is NOT your crowd, mama. Not anymore. If you want to up-level your life and live the big life you’re meant to you need to break ties with the things that make you feel and think less than. 

It’s not that shit doesn’t happen - it’s how we react to it. We (especially working moms) try to act like we have it all together when the shit is hitting the fan but we (especially women) ALSO choose to play the victim more than we should. You’ve GOT to take control, mama.

Here are some of my mindset shifts and tips to ditch the bitching and own your life:

What are ways you’re taking responsibility for your own life? How have you changed how you talk and think? I’d love to hear how other working mamas are going through this thing called life, in the best way they can!

How I’m Unf%&king My Mindset: Gratitude wins, always. You cannot be grateful for something and be complaining about it, too. Here’s a little gratitude practice for you - think of a less than ideal situation you’re right now. Maybe it’s a relationship, maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s your crappy car. Write down TEN things that you’re grateful for about it and then follow with BECAUSE. When you add the because, you add the power. Looking for gratitude in shitty situations makes everything better.

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