The relationship that I had with her mother was real it was never upcoming battles when it came to her mother bc it was smooth sailing between us we never fight or argue so when it came to my grandmother it was sense of control and finance it was never about the relationship we had or about building a foundation to stand on it was about money and greed which she wanted to have control over of so I realized after 35 years of this relationship been nothing but a waste it was transactional and I didn’t want that at all so I plan my escape to leave the relationship without telling her I was done with you .