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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 172 - "The darker side of questions" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Questions are a good thing...right? Well, not always. Questions are a tool that can be constructive and supportive or destructive and draining. We do often talk about questions as being a good thing and as always there's nuance. On today's episode we're taking a look at the flip side of the questioning tool. Tune in to find out how anxiety, control and unmet needs could actually be doing the asking.

In this episode we cover:

• Why questions are powerful tools
• Being mindful of intention - conscious vs unconscious intention
• Harmful reasons some people ask questions
• Anxiety driven questioning and recognizing its importance in relation to children
• The difference between gathering information to create security and anxiety driven questioning
• How questions can be used as a form of control
• Identifying questions rooted in control and manipulation
• Neutralizing controlling and manipulating questions
• Indicators that your unmet needs are asking the questions
• Creating from curiosity vs manipulating to get needs met
• How to ensure your intentions are truly clean

Episode References:

• The Drama Triangle episodes -
• The Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach
• The Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach
• The Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach
• The Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful
• The Empowerment Dynamic episodes -
• The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach
• The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter Approach
• The Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach
• The other "shapes" episodes -
• Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one
• The Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)
• Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)
• Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies
• The anxiety episode - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxiety
• The don't yuck my yum episode - Episode 170 - Don't yuck my yum
• The episode about control - Episode 24 - How the need to have control is controlling you

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