Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 173 - "The small language changes that could stop the majority of arguments" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

Miscommunications may be inevitable in relationships but not all miscommunications have to lead to arguments. Often times small tweaks in language can lead to big changes in communication. Tune in to find out what can happen when we begin removing right or wrong and replacing it with possibility and outcomes. 

In this episode we cover:

• How unreliable our perception of what has happened can sometimes be
• Being open to the fact we may have misheard, misspoke, misunderstood, etc.
• Making things right vs wrong
• What will make the biggest difference in these situations
• The real loser in win/lose relationships
• Deleting, distorting and generalizing
• How its possible to miss something that's right in front of us
• Recognizing why we "need" to be right
• What happens when you take things out of right and wrong
• Creating supportive relationships and dynamics
• The assumption of understanding
• Remembering what matters, who the person is and focusing on your outcome
• When life gets in the way of communicating
• The same words with different meanings

Resources

• Videos showing the phenomenon known as "Change Blindness" where some people don't notice a change when it happens right in front of them:
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqgwZEdoH5w
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkrrVozZR2c

Episode References:

• The Drama Triangle episodes -
• The Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach
• The Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach
• The Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach
• The Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful
• The Empowerment Dynamic episodes -
• The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach
• The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter Approach
• The Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach
• The other "shapes" episodes -
• Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one
• The Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)
• Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)
• Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies

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