Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 175- "How to create when you're dependent on someone else's reaction" is now LIVE!

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Have you ever found yourself desperately trying to create something with someone else and all you end up creating is more of what your don't want? Join us on a trip through our recent travels as we discuss how easy it is to convince ourself we are doing something we actually aren't and how to successfully cocreate so everyone can get their needs met.

In this episode we cover:

• Serena's failed attempt at creation on the top of a mountain
• Using a word doesn't make it true
• What does desperation tell us
• Trying to use creation as an avoidance strategy
• The common misunderstanding in relationships
• Using parallel play as adults
• The issue with side stepping an issue
• The only way you can actually cocreate with someone
• Becoming clear on the outcome
• How to create when the other person isn't in the same space as you

Episode References:

• The shapes episodes - Episodes 159-169
• The Drama Triangle episodes -
• The Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach The Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach The Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach The Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful
• The Empowerment Dynamic episodes - The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter Approach The Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach
• The other "shapes" episodes - Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one The Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9) Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10) Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies

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