Today, I DIVE in to exposing the toxic sexuality that is constantly fed to us through the content we consume via movies, shows, and social media. This shapes our unconscious perceptions of sex and sexuality directly affecting how we approach consent. BUT we have the power to re-program our unconscious mind.

Here are some sexual messages that misconstrued the meaning of consent that I have noticed portrayed in movies or shows:

• Normalizing liquid courage to be sexual
• Getting a few drinks in people to loosen them up
• "I'm just messing around"
• Not taking no for an answer
• Prude shaming
• Assuming body language or clothing equals consent
• Portraying consent as emasculating
• Believing being in a relationship automatically means constant sexual availability 
• Cultivating attraction around "taking what you want" when it involves another person

Just because it has been normalized doesn't make it okay! When you are watching TV or on social media, I challenge you to see if you can pin point any of these subliminal messages now. When you do, immediately reframe the message in your mind. Tell yourself, "That behavior does not serve me, but this behavior would serve me (then imagine a conducive scenario or thought process)."

We all have the power to create a healthy and safe environment while also allowing ourselves to be sexual beings! It is time to eradicate fear out of the equation of sex and infuse it with love! By incorporating proper consent with anything sexual is a great way to start that process. 

 

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