We’ve all dealt with or experienced not so great relationships at some point in our lives, and from those, we have made a list of our “red flags”- when we think of those red flags, we usually think of them in an intimate and romantic setting rather than thinking of red flags, in our friendships and in family relationships.

Last week we talked about hidden toxic habits that others and our own selves can quite often display yet we have normalized them so much that we had no clue the damage they were causing.

Riding the coattails of last week's episode, I wanted to continue with how to be more aware of red flags and cues in other behaviors that could be a threat to your energy, peace and well being.

When it comes to recognizing toxic behaviors, it's not always in your face and super transparent.

The ability to tune into our feelings and being aware and trusting of those feelings are essential when deciphering if something or someone is not good for the health and happiness of your overall life.

Two key feelings in others that are red flags or cues that something or someone has toxic traits are discomfort and resentment.

Have you ever left a conversation with someone, whether it was with one of your longtime friends, or just a brief encounter with a coworker, that left you feeling just blah?

Feeling exhausted, your energy a little jumbled? Maybe you didn’t feel good and resent how you engaged with them. Did you join in on the gossip or the judging?

Were you uncomfortable with information they were giving you but didn’t have the courage to stop them?

We feel discomfort and resentment after an interaction with someone, because we have pushed ourselves beyond our comfort zone or limits because we feel guilty.

Or someone is pressing their values, views or expectations on us (this is SOOOOOO common in family relationships because we are expected to be a good daughter, a good wife, a good sister and just accept it.)

When someone acts in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable, that is a sign that they are violating or crossing a boundary. That is a red flag.

Without giving away ALLL of the deets before the podcast, I’ll just stop here.

But once we become more aware of what our toxic habits are, we can tune in to how we feel around others who have more subtle toxic red flags and can then create healthy boundaries that protect our energy and growth.

We don’t necessarily have to cut everyone off at the limbs, but hey, if that’s what it takes (and sometimes it does).

Check out Episode 19 now on the Red Flags in your life.

Let me know what you think and thank you for being on this journey with me!

XOXO-

Meg