A few months ago my friend Ann told me that I wasn't a nice person. It took me back for a moment, and I was a bit embarassed.

However, it launched us into a conversation about the difference between the meaning behind the words "nice" and "kind." Even if you aren't an etymologist, it is worth finding out the difference.

These two four letter words sound innocent on the surface, but look deeper and they expose the lying, boundary creating or breaching, people pleasing, and toxic positivity that can lurk in each of us, close relationships, churches, schools, family trees, and in government entities.

Ann wrote a book recently called "Quit Being so gosh darn Nice!" She even admitted subsituting "gosh darn" for 'damn" over some concerns about what certain people in her close human orbit would think. And, therein lies the challenge for us all - knowing when to say exactly what you mean (being kind) and massaging the message a bit (being nice) and when and how to discern the difference in approach needed.

Even with a few internet connection issues, we had an interesting discussion about the topic. And, noticed that we all have a mixture of both nice and kind in us... even as we seek out to beome the kindest version of ourselves toward building stronger relationships.

And, please consider it a compliment if I tell you that I don't think you are nice. Listen to find out why.

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