Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 195 - "Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships" is now LIVE!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

In life, you win some and you lose some. However, when it comes to our relationships, there is no win-lose. If it's not a win-win, it's a lose-lose and if something doesn't work for one person, it doesn't actually work for the other person or the needs of the relationship. Tune in to discover how finding the win-win can drastically change and improve the relationships in your life by creating something that works for everyone.

In this episode we cover:

• Raining iguanas and exploding trees
• Why there is no win-lose in relationships
• The effects our relationships have on our needs
• Understanding and recognizing interconnectedness
• How winning an argument can negatively impact our needs
• The repercussions of disconnecting from someone's humanity
• What winning actually is
• The culture of competition in relationships
• When team building builds walls
• Putting energy into collaboration rather than competition
• Finding what works for everyone
• Planting seeds of resentment
• Using an "ideal world" to find a win-win and create a more supportive relationship

Episode References:

• The Interaction Dynamics (shapes) episodes - Episodes 159-169
• The Drama Triangle episodes
• Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach -
• Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach
• Episode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach
• Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful
• The Empowerment Dynamic episodes
• Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach
• Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6)
• Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach
• The other "shapes" episodes -
• Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one
• Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)
• Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)
• Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies
• The Selfirst episodes
• Episode 2 - The wisdom of Joey Tribbiani (An introduction to being Selfirst)
• Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…
• Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility
• Episode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needs
• The red green spectrum episode - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needs
• The Needs Ecosystem episode - Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough'

Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

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