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Episode 2: Grief, Orgasm, and the Courage to Feel
Content Warning: This episode discusses loss, addiction, grief and self-pleasure
Episode 2: Grief, Orgasm, and the Courage to Feel
In this deeply personal episode, Kelsey opens up about the recent loss of her brother to addiction, exploring how grief intersects with pleasure, embodiment, and healing. She and Kate discuss the courage it takes to feel all emotions fully, the importance of staying connected to our bodies during profound change, and how pleasure practices can be acts of resistance and self-love. They share vulnerable stories about rediscovering sexuality after paralysis, creating sensory experiences for self-pleasure, and finding joy amidst overwhelming grief. This episode honors the complexity of being human - holding both sorrow and celebration, loss and liberation.
Resources Mentioned:
Book: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski
Podcast: Emily Nagoski's podcast
Song: "Older" by Lizzy McAlpine (from Platonic Season 2)
Song: “Drip for Me” by FREAQUE
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[0:00] Content warning and dedication to Nathan
[1:36] Opening conversation about grief and Nathan's presence
[5:15] Finding joy and relief amidst grief
[6:45] The dichotomy of loss - relief and heartache
[9:08] Staying embodied through grief and pain
[10:00] Making space to feel vs. swallowing emotions down
[12:30] Episode introduction - Remembering how to feel it all
[14:00] Bodies designed for pleasure, experiencing pain
[15:00] Homework check-in: the ambitious orgasm challenge
[17:30] Epiphany about repeating old patterns post-injury
[18:25] Redefining safety, and discovering new norms
[20:00] Shifted perspectives in disabled sexual experiences
[24:50] Autonomic dysreflexia (AD) and pleasure
[28:30] Kate's play-by-play: creating the ultimate orgasm
[30:00] Setting the scene - sensory details matter
[33:15] Shadow work through intimacy - loving the unloved parts
[35:30] Identifying and communicating needs and desires
[41:25] Hosting pleasure circles and community
[42.45] Identity shifts after disability - mourning who you were
[44:00] Ritual and ceremony for life transitions
[46:00] Everything happens FOR us, not TO us
[48:50] Resensualizing - new view on self-pleasure practices
[52:00] Releasing the movement and music
[54:00] Feeling all the feels
[56:50] The body holds trauma we don't express
[58:00] Finding safety in your own body
[1:00:00] Shadow work and unveiling what's hiding
[1:01:1] Episode wrap-up
[1:02:22] Tales from the Clits - pleasure homework
[1:03:28] Kate's kink event adventure
[1:04:00] Kelsey's sensory dream night challenge
[1:06:30] Closing and credits
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By Kelsey Peterson, Kate SteeleContent Warning: This episode discusses loss, addiction, grief and self-pleasure
Episode 2: Grief, Orgasm, and the Courage to Feel
In this deeply personal episode, Kelsey opens up about the recent loss of her brother to addiction, exploring how grief intersects with pleasure, embodiment, and healing. She and Kate discuss the courage it takes to feel all emotions fully, the importance of staying connected to our bodies during profound change, and how pleasure practices can be acts of resistance and self-love. They share vulnerable stories about rediscovering sexuality after paralysis, creating sensory experiences for self-pleasure, and finding joy amidst overwhelming grief. This episode honors the complexity of being human - holding both sorrow and celebration, loss and liberation.
Resources Mentioned:
Book: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski
Podcast: Emily Nagoski's podcast
Song: "Older" by Lizzy McAlpine (from Platonic Season 2)
Song: “Drip for Me” by FREAQUE
---
[0:00] Content warning and dedication to Nathan
[1:36] Opening conversation about grief and Nathan's presence
[5:15] Finding joy and relief amidst grief
[6:45] The dichotomy of loss - relief and heartache
[9:08] Staying embodied through grief and pain
[10:00] Making space to feel vs. swallowing emotions down
[12:30] Episode introduction - Remembering how to feel it all
[14:00] Bodies designed for pleasure, experiencing pain
[15:00] Homework check-in: the ambitious orgasm challenge
[17:30] Epiphany about repeating old patterns post-injury
[18:25] Redefining safety, and discovering new norms
[20:00] Shifted perspectives in disabled sexual experiences
[24:50] Autonomic dysreflexia (AD) and pleasure
[28:30] Kate's play-by-play: creating the ultimate orgasm
[30:00] Setting the scene - sensory details matter
[33:15] Shadow work through intimacy - loving the unloved parts
[35:30] Identifying and communicating needs and desires
[41:25] Hosting pleasure circles and community
[42.45] Identity shifts after disability - mourning who you were
[44:00] Ritual and ceremony for life transitions
[46:00] Everything happens FOR us, not TO us
[48:50] Resensualizing - new view on self-pleasure practices
[52:00] Releasing the movement and music
[54:00] Feeling all the feels
[56:50] The body holds trauma we don't express
[58:00] Finding safety in your own body
[1:00:00] Shadow work and unveiling what's hiding
[1:01:1] Episode wrap-up
[1:02:22] Tales from the Clits - pleasure homework
[1:03:28] Kate's kink event adventure
[1:04:00] Kelsey's sensory dream night challenge
[1:06:30] Closing and credits