Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series- "What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…" is now live!

Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide

We've talked a lot about being Selfirst in the episodes we have shared up to now, but we often get questions asking for clarity about it. What IS Selfirst and what ISN'T? One of our community members asked us to do a podcast explaining more, so today that's exactly what we're doing.

In today's episode we cover:

- They say that Diamonds are a girl's best friend - Why a very specific diamond is Everyone's best friend

- A reminder of the difference between Selfish, Selfless and Selfirst and how they are connected to unmet needs

- Why being 'selfless' often isn't selfless at all

- Why the sequence matters so much

- How Selfirst is a conscious choice in how to respond to a situation and/or meet your needs

- When Selfirst is NOT applicable

- The situations in which you can almost always be selfirst

- Why Selfirst might not be what you would choose to do if you were fully resourced, and how that's OK and actually best for everyone

- What Selfirst means if you are responsible for dependents (genuine dependents)

- How glass and plastic balls can help you navigate being Selfirst when you DO have genuine dependents

- Some examples of being Selfirst (and not being Selfirst) from our own lives

- Why Selfirst isn't a one and done thing

- How not being Selfirst actually compromises your needs

- How a nostalgic Christmas movie inspired a deeper understanding of Selfirst for one of us (we are aware of how harmful and problematic this movie is, we do not recommend watching it, we just wanted to give context to the realisation that came from it)

This is a resource on the glass and plastic balls analogy we mention in the episode: https://www.upworthy.com/to-the-parents-struggling-to-juggle-it-all-during-the-pandemic

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