We're living in a culture obsessed with calm, as if stillness is the destination and anything that disturbs it is a threat. But bodies don't grow that way. Neither do relationships. Neither do we. In this episode, I explore how our fear of stress creates more stress, how avoidance shrinks our capacity, and how conflict tolerance is the quiet muscle alot of us miss out on training. You'll hear about how connection requires friction, why calm is the result of capacity (not the prerequisite), and how you build resilience in your body the same way you do in your nervous system: slowly, intentionally, and through exposure that honors your limits without insulating you from life.