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The Dangers of Comparison
Comparison is something we have all found ourselves doing from time to time, especially in a social media world. With just a few clicks you are bombarded with the absolute best of everyone’s seemingly perfect lives. We see “perfect” marriages, jobs, kids, spouses, and vacations, and it is easy to compare our lives to the lives of others and feel like we don’t add up in some way.
On this episode, we will break down the dangers of comparison and the problems it can bring to your marriage.
The Problems with ComparisonThere are several problems with comparison let’s start with the fact that it is not an accurate measurement. I love what Dave Barringer has to say about it.
Comparison takes our deficiencies and measures them against someone else’s highlight reel.
~ Dave Barringer author of The Danger of Comparison in Marriage
There is no way you can accurately compare yourself to someone or someone’s marriage because you can not and will not ever see the whole picture of what is going on.
Another issue with comparison is it does not factor in our uniqueness. God created us and our spouses with special gifts and abilities… on purpose. He wants us to be original not a remix of someone else He made.
The Dangers of ComparisonGod created each of us with a specific race to run. He gave us the gifts and abilities that we need to finish our race strong. The same is true with our spouses. When we come together as husband and wife we become one. We become the only couple just like us, and that is a beautiful thing.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us Hebrews 12:1
The danger comes because comparison does not travel alone. Comparison likes to bring his 3 friends to the party.
DiscontentmentWhen we measure our “real” marriage against the picture-perfect marriage of others it is easy to believe that we fall short. We then start viewing everything about our marriage through the lens of discontentment.
ResentmentOnce discontentment sets in resentment is soon to follow. We resent our spouses for not being like the perfect spouses we see all around us. We start making passive-aggressive comments, or straight-out blunt comments about how we wish they were like so and so.
DeceptionFinally, if this discontentment and resentment are not taken care of people reach out to others. We start lying about who with are with or who we are talking to. Situations like this are how affairs and divorces happen.
In our next podcast, we are going to talk about ways to stop comparing ourselves and our marriages to others.
www.abeautifuladventuremarriage.com
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The Dangers of Comparison
Comparison is something we have all found ourselves doing from time to time, especially in a social media world. With just a few clicks you are bombarded with the absolute best of everyone’s seemingly perfect lives. We see “perfect” marriages, jobs, kids, spouses, and vacations, and it is easy to compare our lives to the lives of others and feel like we don’t add up in some way.
On this episode, we will break down the dangers of comparison and the problems it can bring to your marriage.
The Problems with ComparisonThere are several problems with comparison let’s start with the fact that it is not an accurate measurement. I love what Dave Barringer has to say about it.
Comparison takes our deficiencies and measures them against someone else’s highlight reel.
~ Dave Barringer author of The Danger of Comparison in Marriage
There is no way you can accurately compare yourself to someone or someone’s marriage because you can not and will not ever see the whole picture of what is going on.
Another issue with comparison is it does not factor in our uniqueness. God created us and our spouses with special gifts and abilities… on purpose. He wants us to be original not a remix of someone else He made.
The Dangers of ComparisonGod created each of us with a specific race to run. He gave us the gifts and abilities that we need to finish our race strong. The same is true with our spouses. When we come together as husband and wife we become one. We become the only couple just like us, and that is a beautiful thing.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us Hebrews 12:1
The danger comes because comparison does not travel alone. Comparison likes to bring his 3 friends to the party.
DiscontentmentWhen we measure our “real” marriage against the picture-perfect marriage of others it is easy to believe that we fall short. We then start viewing everything about our marriage through the lens of discontentment.
ResentmentOnce discontentment sets in resentment is soon to follow. We resent our spouses for not being like the perfect spouses we see all around us. We start making passive-aggressive comments, or straight-out blunt comments about how we wish they were like so and so.
DeceptionFinally, if this discontentment and resentment are not taken care of people reach out to others. We start lying about who with are with or who we are talking to. Situations like this are how affairs and divorces happen.
In our next podcast, we are going to talk about ways to stop comparing ourselves and our marriages to others.
www.abeautifuladventuremarriage.com