When there are a number of things that are feeling raw and exposed, where to start?

We have conflict in my marriage over where I spend my time and energy when I have some to give.

If I think about my energy like the bars in a battery, I have to be judicious about how to use my energy bars.

The decisions I make about my energy, have impacts on and implications for my wife.

Should I use my energy helping around the house? Being intimate with her?

When I make decisions about my energy without including her, I take those decisions away from her.

Communicating together rather than unilaterally deciding is part of our "bare root" work.