Emotions With Ease

Episode 29: After-School Meltdowns - How to Help Kids Regulate From Pickup to Dinner time


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If weeknights feel like one long meltdown—from the car ride home to bedtime—you're not alone.

In this episode of Emotions with Ease, emotional wellness coach Jami Glenn sits down with Kristin Harrington, occupational therapist and mom of two, to talk through practical, body-based tools to help kids regulate after school—without shame, power struggles, or unrealistic expectations.

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⏱ Timestamps
  • 0:00 – Welcome + why after-school regulation matters 3:00 – Why kids fall apart after school 6:30 – What to do right at pickup (car tools that help) 10:45 – Sensory buckets explained (overflowing vs. empty) 14:30 – Movement ideas to release after-school energy 18:30 – Indoor movement when you can't get outside 22:30 – Dinner time strategies (choices + connection) 26:30 – Nighttime tools to calm the nervous system 29:30 – Kristin's personal regulation tool + wrap-up

🧠 What You'll Learn
  • Why kids often unravel after school (even on "good" days) How to support regulation in the car, at home, and at bedtime What a "sensory bucket" is and why it matters Why movement before calm activities is key How connection helps the nervous system settle

🚗 Right-After-School Tools (Car + Pickup)
  • Have something ready before pickup (snack, fidget) Music (sing or sit quietly—both count) High / Low / Buffalo game (parent joins in) Respect personality: some kids need to talk, others need silence

🧺 At-Home Regulation: What to Ask Yourself
  • Is my child's sensory bucket overflowing or empty? Do they need movement or quiet connection? Have they eaten yet? (Chewy snacks help many kids regulate.)

  • 🏃‍♂️ Movement Ideas That Actually Help

Outside (when possible):

  • Playground time Ball play (catch, soccer, basketball) Bikes, scooters, chalk, barefoot time

Inside:

  • Jumping, crawling, rolling in a blanket Nugget couch play Obstacle courses Heavy work (pushing, pulling, carrying) ✨ Tip: Add structure ("10 jumps" vs. "go play") to avoid overstimulation.

🍽 Dinner Time Support
  • Offer choices ("With me or alone?") Let kids help when possible Create a calm space if they need distance Sit together when you can—connection regulates

  • 🌙 Nighttime Tools to Calm the Body

  • Deep pressure (hugs, squeezes, pillow sandwich) Rocking or gentle movement Sensory bins, Play-Doh, coloring Stretching, yoga, calming music Consistent routine (same order every night)

💛 A Gentle Reminder

After-school meltdowns aren't bad behavior. They're a nervous system asking for support.

Small, proactive tools—used consistently—can change the entire rhythm of your evenings.

🎧 Want Support?

If you're listening and thinking, "I want help applying this in my home," you can book a low-pressure discovery call using the link in the show notes. We'll talk it through and see what feels supportive for your family.

I'm rooting for you.

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