Prince Vince reiterates some points from a conversation from a road-trip a few weeks ago with his sister Anna and her friend JJ. 

When love falters, two things occur which are often problematic. Firstly, one individual appears to have lost a sense of who they were before the relationship started, placing too much identity emphasis on the coupled relationship. Secondly, just as in a court room, lovers will defend their relationships, no matter how detrimental they look from the outside. 

Moral of the story, focus on each of three components of the relationship -- the relationship, the other, and yourself -- equally AND then just let love tell the tale.