In this episode of The Roadmap to Secure Love, Dr. Kimberly Castelo and Kyle Benson explore a topic that resonates deeply with many—people pleasing and the impact on sex. 

Rooted in anxious attachment, people pleasing can show up in the most intimate parts of our relationships, often leading to obligatory sex, disconnection, and resentment.

🎙️ Kim and Kyle unpack the emotional, relational, and psychological effects of prioritizing your partner’s pleasure while ignoring your own needs.

 They challenge outdated cultural, religious, and therapeutic messages that pressure partners—especially women—to perform rather than authentically connect.

Whether you've felt pressure to say yes when you meant no, or you’ve struggled to feel truly desired and safe in your sex life, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and concrete tools to begin rewriting your sexual script.

Key takeaways:

• The emotional toll of performative intimacy
• Why people pleasing often stems from anxious attachment
• How to own your pleasure and communicate it
• The importance of co-creating intimacy rather than complying with pressure
• What to do when cultural or therapeutic messages feel harmful

This is a must-listen for anyone wanting to deepen emotional and physical intimacy in a secure, loving way.

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Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️

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