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Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn't matter…

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We've all heard it, and almost all of us have said it at one point or another, "I didn't mean to...." or "that wasn't my intention." So often when we've done something that has impacted someone else we are quick to point out that it wasn't our intention...but the question is why? What needs are we trying to meet through doing this? And more importantly, what are the MANY needs that we cost and compromise through taking this approach?

In this episode we cover:

  • Where did we first learn about this concept
  • How a lot of people try to use a good intention (or lack of bad intention) as a way to excuse behavior or avoid facing the consequences of their actions
  • Why it really doesn't matter what your intention is
  • How this works when it comes to needs being impacted
  • Why having a good intention doesn't make a negative consequence or impact better
  • How the focus on intention actually compromises our needs and the needs of others
  • How seeing yourself as a good person can block us from doing the decent thing when we have impacted others
  • Why things that were seen as 'jokes' in the past aren't actually funny and how this impacts need
  • The misnomer of 'cancel culture' and how we are really experiencing CONSEQUENCE culture
  • How focusing on your intention often leads to further harm
  • How the Needs Lens helps us to understand the importance of impact over intention
  • How to reduce the impact to your own needs
  • How focusing on our intention is an attempt to protect our needs...but is a strategy that actually COMPROMISES our needs
  • How when our needs are well met it will make it easier to focus on our impact and on making amends for that impact
  • Why our Value Need is a key one in shifting this behavior
  • How to be a more decent human being, and how it meets your needs better to approach issues in this way
  • The strength of our relationships is demonstrated by our ability and willingness to call each other 'in' and to help us to learn to do better
  • How accountability is one of the greatest supports you can provide to people you care about
  • How this shows up around Costumes, language and many other areas of life

    • The episode with the apology blueprint that we reference is Episode 16 - How to apologize (and why sorry isn't enough)

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