I want you to grab your notepad and pen, and ask yourself:

Are you making fear a habit?

Are you choosing to be in fear?

Whatever we don't change, we choose and we choose how we react to situations. We can't choose situations. We can't choose how other people react or respond. We can only choose how we react or respond.

Jen says that we've not only made a habit out of smearing our fear, worry and doubt all over each other, but we pat ourselves on the backs for it, because we believe that it shows how much we care.

But when people put their fears on you, take a step back, have that pause between the stimulus and the response, which is so powerful and ask yourself: Is this coming from a place that's serving me? Is it coming from that place of fear? Is it coming from their belief that they're trying to impress on me? Should I take it on board or not?

It really is your decision, but it's important to take a minute to pause and to question what they're saying, rather than just taking it on board as gospel. Be respectful, of course there's no need to be rude or anything.

Fear lives in the future.

We worry if we’ll ever marry the person of your dreams, if our career will be successful, or if our kids will grow up to be successful.

But ask yourself, is it healthy for me to be scared of things that haven't even happened yet? Fear itself is made up because it hasn't even happened yet.

All it takes to turn the fear factor around is learning to be comfortable in, instead of terrified of, the unknown. This is done through faith. Is your fear greater than your faith in the unknown?

While you're asking yourself this, here's an empowering quote from Helen Keller: “life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces towards change and behave like free spirits. The presence of fear is strength un-defeatable”.

On the other side of your fear is freedom. When you push yourself outside of your comfort zone, freedom is on the other side. But you've got to get uncomfortable in order to get comfortable. You don't thrive in your comfort zone, you survive in your comfort zone. So you have to decide, do you want to thrive or survive?

View fear from your rear view mirror, no matter how intimidating your next great leap forward seems at the moment, it will be a pipsqueak when you look back on it someday. So, why wait?! Why not look at it through pipsqueak coloured glasses right now? Envision your challenges from the future. Look back on them from a place of victory, and they will lose much of their power to paralyse you.

Do you remember how nervous you were for your driving test? Or for your first day at work? Or a job interview? Or when you left your job to start a business?

Whatever it was, think how terrified you were and how that's now just a drop in the ocean. So, what you're scared of right now is going to be a drop in the ocean in the future.

I know I talk a lot about being present and mindful, but it’s important to put things in perspective and remember that, in the future, it probably won't really matter.

As Mel Robbins says, don't spend more than five minutes worrying about something that you won't care about in five weeks, five months, five years etc.

Our greatest fears are our greatest waste of time.

Remember that your fears are just in your mind, and they lose the power over you. How amazing would it be to not be paralysed by fear? When you find yourself letting fear push you around, look at it from a different perspective, start by breaking it down, finding out what it is that you're really afraid of.

And then flip it round to make it work for you. Not against you. Show it who's boss, feed your fear a suck it sandwich! 

Break your fear down so you can really look at and diffuse what it is about a situation that's scaring you.

Fear is all about how you choose to look at things.