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Episode 43 - Guilt/Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame - is now LIVE!

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Many many people battle with guilt and shame, so we though it would be helpful to do a series focusing on these two experiences. One of the biggest issues most people have is that they often confuse guilt for shame and vice versa, so in our first episode of the series we get really clear, what is the difference between guilt and shame?

In this episode we cover:

  • Serena's interesting interconnectedness moment on her 'Large coffee with whipped cream' day
  • What the top level difference between guilt and shame is
  • How our guilty is actually our humanity working the way it is supposed to and is actually a POSITIVE thing (when it happens in an appropriate moment)
  • How our guilt helps us to give a genuine apology (Episode 16 is the breakdown of how to give an effective apology)
  • How guilt naturally dissipates if this process works as it is meant to
  • The effects of unprocessed and unhealed guilt
  • The self destructive consequences of shame and how it often leads to varying types of self harm
  • How shame feeds addiction and addiction feeds shame
  • What we can to avoid shaming ourselves for coping strategies in the absence of other ways to meet our needs
  • How to shift from a shame lens to a guilt lens when viewing ourselves and our behaviors
  • One of the things that is an expressway to shame
  • The stepping stones in our internal self talk that can put us on either a guilt or shame path
  • The quick way to step out of a shame spiral and back onto the guilt track
  • How identity level labelling can often harm needs even when those labels are 'positive'
  • Claire's deflection shield against shame from others in the moment
  • How to deal with shame labels that have been put on us in childhood

    • Our slightly amended version of Gabor Mate's definition of addiction is:

    "Any behavior that gives you temporary relief or temporary pleasure, but in the long term has negative consequences in your life or causes you physical, mental or emotional harm, and you can’t (or find it very hard to) give it up despite those negative consequences."

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