Laura loves to talk about facts versus feelings because our fear response is the thing that's often stopping us and that’s an emotional response.

There's a part of our brain called the amygdala, which signals fear. So when there's anything unknown, even if it's a really positive, exciting thing for us, that part of our brain flares up.

This triggers those thoughts and behaviours that stop us or inhibit us from actually going ahead with a strategy. You can have the best strategy in the world but if you don't have that confidence behind you and that emotional regulation, that resilience, then it's probably not going to be as successful as it could be.

Emotional resilience is self-compassion. It's accepting your emotions and your circumstances for what they are in that moment. For me, I was running away from my dark thoughts and feelings that were trying to rise up to the surface, and physically running away from them because I was running for exercise.

I was using it self-medicate, and I realised that throughout my life, I've been using distraction to self medicate. When I first started working straight out of uni, I was still partying because I didn't want to become an adult and face reality. Then when I met my boyfriend two years ago, I was self medicating through codependency. I was relying on him for my happiness, which meant I was in a job that I absolutely hated. Then in my business, I was relying on over-exercising and over-working to self-medicate and distract myself. It was all because I didn't want to face my inner demons and all of these emotions.

Laura suggests viewing failure as feedback, rather than the end result. Ask yourself, what could I learn from these lessons?

If we're thinking positively, then we're going to feel more positive and then more positive things are going to happen.

Laura believes that listing down the things you’re grateful for when you’re feeling down is distracting you from facing the real problems at hand. It buries it, and then that manifests in your mood, so you might be quite snappy with your partner or your loved ones, or you might be less motivated, or you might struggle to sleep or struggle to wake up, or you might feel trapped, lost, or confused.

We need healthy strategies rather than coping strategies, as coping strategies just mask a bad smell and act as a bandaid. Sometimes sticking in your comfort zone or sticking to what you know is the worst block.

Laura is all about living intentionally. She likes to encourage everyone to live more intentionally, because the whole point of life is to live a fulfilled life with purpose and to feel happy. Be conscious of how you’re feeling and be conscious of what you want.

A lot of people have said to me recently that money and love are at the same frequency. So how I feel in love is how I want to feel in money. If I can feel the same way in love as I feel in money, then I'm going to manifest money. That's just the way the energy and vibrations work. Practice the frequency until choosing those feelings come easily.

But if you're just attached to a monetary figure, you’re not going to manifest it if if you're not truly motivated by it. Motivation is the key to change a behaviour. It's the key to overcoming your fears.

For any goal, don't just think that you want to get there. Or you want to work out three times a week. Ask yourself, why? How is that going to benefit feeling at the end of doing that? Because if you're not actually motivated, if you haven't given any thought to it, then that's going to be way less likely to be a successful goal.

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