In this episode, Bill and Marty talk about self-regulation and what to do when compassion or a results-focused mindset stops working, especially during frustration or miscommunication. They share personal stories and walk through both proactive and reactive ways to steady yourself and return to calm. The conversation touches on sleep, diet, and small life experiments that help you figure out what actually supports your well-being.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Vigilance and Depression

01:00 Welcome to the True You Podcast

01:22 Compassionate Results Coaching

02:26 Dealing with Frustration and Miscommunication

03:47 Understanding Vigilance and Core Fears

08:05 Childhood Influences on Vigilance

11:03 Managing Bottlenecks and Frustration

16:56 Top-Down and Bottom-Up Regulation

23:28 Self-Management and Compassion

24:57 Understanding the Dao Approach to Inner Critic

26:45 Resisting vs. Engaging with the Inner Critic

28:00 Creating Physical Representations of Inner Critic

29:23 Personal Experiences with Inner Battles

34:00 Proactive Self-Regulation Techniques

36:23 Commitment to a Chemical-Free Lifestyle

38:13 The Impact of Diet on Self-Regulation

48:28 Reflecting on Life as an Experiment

Links and Resources:

• ‘Taming Your Gremlin’ by Rick Carson: https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Gremlin-Surprisingly-Getting/dp/0060520221

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• Internal Family Systems - https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching - https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website - https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ - https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ - https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions - https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty - [email protected]

• Contact Bill - [email protected]