True You Podcast

In this episode, Bill and Marty sit down for the final recording of the True You Podcast, reflecting on three years of co-hosting across two shows, the Friday Morning Mastermind group that brought them together, and the coaches, mentors, and methods that shaped them both. They share what's next for each of them and thank listeners for being part of the ride.

00:00 Final Episode Announcement

01:30 Completion and Letting Go

4:25 How We Met and Coaching Roots

10:27 From Leadership to True You

14:54 What Marty Is Doing Next

18:56 Bill Backstory and Recovery Path

29:22 Three Deep Recovery and New Projects

32:18 Identity Shifts and Carrying It Forward

38:20 Farewell and Listener Message

Links and Resources:

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Bill and Marty continue their conversation about divinity, Self, and what it means to follow an inner compass. Bill shares how his Catholic upbringing, sobriety, AA, spiritual reading, and The Urantia Book shaped his relationship with God. Marty brings in his own path through church, agnosticism, and a powerful experience with an Indian guru. Together, they explore Self as something human, divine, or perhaps beyond both, and close with a practical way to live from higher values, true north, and the guidance found in discomfort.

Chapters:

00:00 Doubt And True North
00:51 Self And Divinity Debate
03:31 Catholic Childhood Skepticism
05:05 Leaving Church Behind
07:20 AA And Higher Power Struggle
08:25 Christ In You Breakthrough
10:37 Christmas Sign And Coincidence
14:06 Books And Spiritual Seeking
16:25 Urantia Book Awakening
20:49 Seeing Life As Divine
24:52 Love As Evolution
26:40 Faith and Science Upbringing
27:21 Agnostic Phase in College
27:48 Meeting an Enlightened Guru
28:19 Lightning Bolt Awakening
30:09 Bhagavad Gita Parallel
31:26 Divya Diksha Explained
32:28 Ad Break Guidebook
32:50 Seeking Enlightenment and Fear
34:55 Smallness and Saint Thérèse
37:03 Living Christian Without Belief
40:20 Higher Power Within Values
42:11 Try It and Measure Results
43:52 Action Step Define Values
44:38 Freedom Without Wrath
46:56 True North Inner Compass
48:23 Calibrating Discomfort Signals
49:24 Closing Thanks and Takeaways

Links and Resources:

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Marty and Bill explore the difference between self-management and self-leadership.

Bill explains how self-management can become exhausting inner conflict, especially when one part of us tries to control another. They connect this to addiction recovery, workplace dynamics, 12-step programs, IFS, ACA, and Byron Katie’s work.

Together, they look at how self-awareness helps us move from control into compassion, choice, and deeper trust in the Self.

Chapters:

00:00 Midweek Podcast Kickoff
01:00 Self-Management Defined
06:47 Leadership Versus Management
09:22 Addiction Recovery as Management
11:29 12-Step Origins and Limits
16:06 Higher Self and Self-Love
22:31 IFS Parts as Helpers
23:39 Leading Teams Like Parts
25:30 Motivation Questions at Work
27:44 Motivation Builds Trust
29:06 From Reactivity to Growth
31:34 Challenging Limiting Thoughts
35:27 Why Self-Awareness Is Hard
38:24 Blind Spot Lunch Story
40:48 Self-Leadership in Practice
43:11 Freedom, Choice, and Beauty
46:44 Wrap-Up and Inner Spark

Links and Resources:

• True You Podcast Facebook Page
https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page
https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast?
https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems
https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching
https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, Compassionate Results Guidebook
https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• Listening is the Key, Dr. Kettelhut’s website
https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, Leadership as Relation
https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, Listen… Till You Disappear
https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice, Free IFS Practice Group Sessions
https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty
[email protected]

• Contact Bill
[email protected]

🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links:
https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links

➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit:
https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs

➡️ Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice

🔗 Parts Work Practice page:
https://www.partsworkpractice.com/

📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here:
http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/

➡️ Attend IFS Coaching Groups:
https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups

📞 Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment:
https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact

🎙️ Listen to True You Podcast at:
https://trueyoupodcast.com

Available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube!

In this episode, Bill and Marty welcome back relationship coach and Building a Conflict-Proof Relationship author Geoff Laughton to discuss how inner conflict shapes relationships and the world around us. Geoff shares spiritual insights on grief, humility, and peace, while the conversation explores why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a partnership. Together, they unpack emotional maturity, personal responsibility, the myth of “you complete me,” and the healing work required to build lasting, healthy relationships.

About Geoff:

Geoff Laughton is a men’s leadership and relationship speaker focused on accountability, conscious partnership, and emotional maturity. With more than 30 years of experience working with men and couples, he helps men become fully present partners, fathers, and leaders—without shame or performative masculinity.

Geoff is the co-founder of Undaunted Man, a decade-long men’s organization rooted in brotherhood, integrity, and authentic personal evolution.

Contact Geoff:

Website: www.theundauntedman.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geofflaughton

Facebook: www.linkedin.com/ln/geofflaughton

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheUndauntedMan

Chapters:

00:00 Love Is Not Enough

00:47 Meet The Hosts

02:31 Geoff’s Spiritual Download

11:20 Love As The Ante

14:44 Commitment Over Longevity

22:20 Bill’s Marriage Lessons

27:08 Limerence And Fantasy

32:29 Stop Making Partners Everything

35:24 Own Your Stuff

41:04 Inner Peace And Responsibility

44:50 Wrap Up And Resources

🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links

➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs

➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice

🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/

📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/

➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups

📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact

🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube!

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In this episode, Marty and Bill welcome coach and podcaster Jake Turner, who works with founders and executives on time, boundaries, communication, and mindset. Jake shares why coaches should have coaches, how his first coach shaped a whole-life approach, and why alignment creates energy while misalignment creates chaos. They discuss the Mexican fisherman parable from Tim Ferriss and the cost of postponing life, plus the power of gratitude and attention, including Bill’s 11-year daily gratitude practice and Jake’s “today’s a good day” mirror routine and phone-free morning system.

About Jake:

Doctorate in nurse anesthesia, professionally certified life coach. From Nashville area. Coach founders and executives to be more productive, get hours of their time back, and build a life they don't need a vacation from.

Contact Jake:

Website: jakepaulturner.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakepaulturner/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jake.turner.31/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jakepaulturner

Links and Resources:

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Bill and Marty interview Morgan Monte, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 3 practitioner and co-author of the Parts Work Guidebook, joined by her Labradoodle Finn. Morgan shares recognizing her neurodivergence in elementary school through social misunderstandings like sarcasm and unspoken context, and how that affected communication during the three-plus-year, five-author book project. They discuss how group ruptures and frustration were repaired by using IFS, including Bill’s “get it done” part becoming controlling and Morgan’s “I don’t belong because I’m different” part withdrawing. Morgan describes IFS training challenges mainly as performance anxiety and fear of evaluation, and how IFS helped her access more Self energy, confidence, clarity, and authenticity.

Chapters:

00:00 Impossible Collaboration

00:59 Meet Morgan and Finn

01:49 Book and Bio Intro

02:49 Locations and Small Talk

04:29 Discovering Neurodivergence

08:47 Mismatch and Breakthroughs

12:48 Learning Sarcasm

16:39 IFS and Neurodivergent Strengths

20:04 Training Anxiety

21:54 Autism Or ADHD

25:05 Labels And Motivation

28:13 Teamwork Speed Mismatch

31:58 Guidebook Excerpts

36:23 Similarities And Big Hearts

39:46 IFS Works For Everyone

40:52 Finding Self Energy

41:44 Closing And Thanks

Links and Resources:

• Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Bill and Marty talk about how having too many meaningful projects can create a “log jam” that leads to overwhelm, stress, and sudden quitting. Using Martin’s seven projects as an example, they walk through a coaching process to get clear on the goal, spot what’s causing the backlog, measure progress, and make a realistic plan. They use the urgent/important matrix, factor in deadlines and inspiration, and show how calendar time-blocking and firm cutoff dates can help restore balance and reflect the “True You.”

Chapters:

00:00 Choosing What Matters

00:40 Podcast Welcome Banter

02:25 Too Many Projects

03:34 The Log Jam Trap

05:37 Coaching Objective Setup

08:06 Clarifying the Gap

09:55 From Problem to Plan

13:00 Live Coaching Example

17:38 Urgent vs Important Matrix

19:50 Time Blocking the Calendar

21:29 Deadlines and Priorities

24:47 Podcast Guest Invite

25:18 Planning The Program

27:20 Time Blocking In Calendar

29:35 Urgent Versus Important

34:07 Vendor Deadline Decision

37:03 Audiobook Sprint Weekend

38:27 Only Do What You Want41:42 Protecting Important Time

43:40 Coaching Process Review

47:33 True You Connection

49:49 Wrap Up And Farewell

Links and Resources:

• Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Marty and Bill’s co-authors Allison Dyer and Islena Faircrest discuss creating The Parts Work Guidebook, released on Kindle with a paperback coming soon. They explain how the book grew from their Parts Work Practice group, where they adapted exercises from Bonnie Weiss and Jay Earley’s Self Therapy Workbook, eventually writing their own guide with 24 exercises to help people learn Internal Family Systems parts work and build self-leadership. The co-authors describe the four-year collaborative process, including conflicts, editing challenges, and “rupture and repair” moments that activated protectors and exiles, and how they used the book’s exercises, structure, humor, and self-regulation to keep writing. Each shares personal growth around impatience, caretaking, avoidance, and connection.

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and Guests

01:11 Meet the Coauthors

03:08 How the Book Began

05:06 Project Management Hurdles

06:56 Writing as Healing

09:49 What the Guidebook Is

12:32 Group Writing Challenges

15:53 Alison on Activation

17:40 Gratitude After Glitches

18:50 Humor As Regulation

21:51 Writing Like Family

23:59 Balancing Healing And Deadlines

27:01 Bill Get It Done Part

31:00 Allison Caretaker Lessons

33:35 Islena Avoidance And Growth

36:09 Book Prompt And Farewell

Links and Resources:

• Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]

In this episode, Bill and Marty talk with divorce, couples, and life coach Nick Meima about purpose, connection, marriage, divorce, stepparenting, and the inner beliefs that shape our lives. Nick shares how his path moved from aging and cohousing into relationship work, and why real growth starts with facing “not enough” beliefs, getting support, and doing the inner work needed to live with more love, maturity, and purpose.

About Nick Meima:

Nick Meima is a divorce coach, couples coach, and life coach whose work centers on intimacy, disconnection, and what it takes to build healthier relationships. His path began early through a deep interest in aging and care for older adults, which led him to earn graduate degrees in marriage, family, and child counseling and in gerontology. He later served as the CEO of a large retirement community, helped create multiple intergenerational cohousing communities, and spent years bringing people together across age groups and life stages. Today, Nick works with individuals, couples, business owners, and leaders, helping them move through divorce, relationship strain, and major life transitions with more clarity, maturity, and care.

Contact Nick:

Websites: www.rebuilders.net, www.ceodivorcecoach.com, www.supportingandcounselingcouples.com

Chapters:

00:00 Purpose And Inner Child

00:33 Meet Nick Meima

02:14 Grandmother And Aging Call

04:35 Retirement Community Reality

07:39 Seeking Wisdom In Elders

10:04 Cohousing And Community

16:16 Weddings To Divorce Coaching

18:24 Divorce Programs And CEOs

22:51 Premarital Support Matters

27:06 Illusions And Disillusionment

29:09 Relationship As Third Entity

30:10 Beyond Transactional Love

31:02 Community Over Transactions

31:39 Preparing for Stepparenthood

35:19 Attachment Versus Love

37:16 A Life of Service

39:17 Coaching Through Core Beliefs

41:16 Enoughness and Inner Child

45:47 Escaping the Drama Triangle

47:18 Purpose Through Inner Work

49:21 How to Connect and Wrap Up

🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links

➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs

➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice

🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/

📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/

➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups

📞Take the Coaching Readiness Assessment, go to https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/contact

🎙️Listen to True You Podcast at https://trueyoupodcast.com available on Spotify, Apple, and YouTube!

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In this episode, Bill and Marty welcome writing coach, counselor, and memoir teacher Jerry Waxler to discuss how memoir supports personal growth and connection. Marty shares how Jerry’s guidance led him to restructure his book about beauty into a memoir to create a more intimate narrative. Jerry explains the “redemptive arc” as a core principle of memoir, describing how stories move from struggle to growth and agency, with parallels to the 12 steps and recovery. The group explores how memoir reading and writing build empathy across cultures and experiences. Jerry also addresses shame, privacy, and how telling difficult truths can bring insight, release, and healing, and he shares his website for memoir coaching and classes.

About Jerry:

Jerry Waxler hit bottom early in adulthood and began a long climb through recovery, self-help, therapy, and wisdom traditions. At fifty, he returned to school to become a therapist, only to discover that to help others, he had to keep growing. Memoir reading provided insight into the vast library of human experience offered in memoirs. And writing his own memoirs helped him rebuild shattered segments of his past. His continued interest in Twelve Step recovery, and his ongoing research into the many branches of psychotherapy, led him to Internal Family Systems, which he sees as a pinnacle of his journey toward mental wholeness. Now, 55 years sober, Jerry’s life work is helping others grow through therapy, writing, and the transformative power of turning private memories into shared stories.

Contact Jerry:

Website: https://www.jerrywaxler.com

Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and Guests

01:07 Why Memoir Now

02:37 Meet Jerry Waxler

03:33 Counseling and Memoir Coaching

05:28 Redemptive Arc Explained

11:43 Agency Through Writing

13:26 Reader Immersion and Empathy

17:55 Theme Versus Story Thread

21:15 Beauty and Redemption Stories

23:06 IFS and Modern Redemption

24:44 Against Despair Narratives

25:53 Memoir Shapes Culture

26:24 Story of Self Empathy

29:31 Books That Expand Worlds

34:06 Memoir as Social Wisdom

37:15 Writing Through Shame4

4:28 From Memory to Narrative

49:00 Wrap Up and Contact

Links and Resources:

• The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini - https://khaledhosseini.com/books/the-kite-runner/

• The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls -https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Glass-Castle/Jeannette-Walls/9780743247542

• This Boy's Life, Tobias Wolff - https://www.bloomsbury.com/uk/this-boys-life-9780747546016/

• Notes of a Native Son, James Baldwin -https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/643832/notes-of-a-native-son-by-james-baldwin/

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty [email protected]

• Contact Bill [email protected]🔗 Compassionate Results Coaching links: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/links➡️ To learn more about the Internal Family Systems Model, visit https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/about-ifs ➡️Join the Parts Work Practice Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/partsworkpractice🔗 Parts Work Practice page: https://www.partsworkpractice.com/📖 Get the Compassionate Results Guidebook here: http://compassionateresultsguidebook.com/➡️Attend IFS Coaching Groups: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/coaching-groups