In this episode, Marty and Bill explore the difference between self-management and self-leadership.

Bill explains how self-management can become exhausting inner conflict, especially when one part of us tries to control another. They connect this to addiction recovery, workplace dynamics, 12-step programs, IFS, ACA, and Byron Katie’s work.

Together, they look at how self-awareness helps us move from control into compassion, choice, and deeper trust in the Self.

Chapters:

00:00 Midweek Podcast Kickoff
01:00 Self-Management Defined
06:47 Leadership Versus Management
09:22 Addiction Recovery as Management
11:29 12-Step Origins and Limits
16:06 Higher Self and Self-Love
22:31 IFS Parts as Helpers
23:39 Leading Teams Like Parts
25:30 Motivation Questions at Work
27:44 Motivation Builds Trust
29:06 From Reactivity to Growth
31:34 Challenging Limiting Thoughts
35:27 Why Self-Awareness Is Hard
38:24 Blind Spot Lunch Story
40:48 Self-Leadership in Practice
43:11 Freedom, Choice, and Beauty
46:44 Wrap-Up and Inner Spark

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