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Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series (3) - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series (3) - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity - is now LIVE!

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As we've discussed in previous episodes, guilt can often be a positive thing and a helpful tool...but what happens when someone tries to manipulate that helpful tool and use it to meet their OWN needs?

In this episode we cover:

  • How this isn't a Larry episode, and it also kind of is...
  • How guilt helps us to connect more deeply with our own humanity
  • That misplaced guilt is often an attempt to manipulate our humanity
  • Often this is a subconscious attempt from another person to get us to meet their needs
  • Some examples of how this has shown up in our lives
  • How different it is dealing with these kinds of situations with someone who knows how to meet their own needs well
  • That gaslighting often shows up in these kinds of dynamics
  • How this is not a supportive dynamic, but how it's so much worse when it causes us to compromise our own needs to meet theirs (which is often the case)
  • A story about guilt and shame which wraps up this whole series
  • How we can sometimes create a shame spiral chain reaction, and how to break that pattern
  • How the guilt mechanism guides you towards healing
  • Why accountability is FOR you because it meets your needs
  • How do you support someone else in jumping off the shame train

    • Episode 21 is the episode from the Selfirst Series about The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility.

    Episode 16 is the breakdown of how to give an effective apology

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