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Every week, Dr. Amanda invites guests to speak about a weekly theme. This week, Tameka Anderso, America's fun coach, author, and speaker, shares tips on how to have hard conversations.

Description of the Episode with Tameka Anderson

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3:35: Dr. Amanda: What is one topic that you find people struggle with the most?

3:43: Tameka:  Racism is a topic that people struggle to discuss.

4:20: Dr. Amanda: What was your hardest conversation that you had to address in the area of racism?

4:40 Tameka: I had a conversation with someone that was not African American and our conversation was difficult because I had to come to a place of not being defensive but also stand my ground yet not being a threat. 

5:58:  Dr. Amanda How do you approach hard conversations when you do not get any headway or no one is listening?

6:10: Tameka: When you come to it in a place of empathy it is the highest place of knowledge. You are not coming from an ego place or need to be right.

7:15: Dr. Amanda: In conversation, can you listen to somebody even if you do not agree?

7:25: Tameka: I do not use the terminology to agree to disagree but willing to listen to a person’s thought process and empathize with them.

9:00:Dr. Amanda: How do you use effective questions?

9:05: Tameka:  It depends on the situation. 

11:50: Dr. Amanda: What do you do if you get upset during a conversation?

12:00: Tameka:  What I know works is to breathe. It really does work.

14:55: Dr. Amanda: Have you ever had to end a conversation because you both need to come back?

15:05: Tameka: I am diligent to only engage in hard conversations with other people that I can engage if they are upset or not. 

16:10: Dr. Amanda: Did you end up following up with those conversations?

16:25:Tameka:  Usually no, especially when saying to come back to that conversation If at all.

17:15:Dr. Amanda: What do you do when you go in circles in conversation?

17:22: Tameka: I tend to bring the attention back to the circle I notice. 

19:15: Dr. Amanda: What were some of the hardest lessons that you learned?

19:25: Tameka: The first thing that I learned is that I am not as patient as I hoped I was. That is one of the main things that I have learned.

22:30: Dr. Amanda: What are any books or resources on how to have hard conversations?

22:30: Tameka: I wrote The Confident Leader about how to engage with others and feel confident.  Power Versus force talking about how not to force something versus being powerful. Permission to Feel by Brene Brown. My absolute favorite is the Law of the Garbage Truck talks about how to lead yourself and lead your thinking.

25:10: Dr. Amanda: What is one more take away wisdom tip for our audience?

25:15 Tameka: If you go into every conversation with a mindset to learn from the other person you are automatically putting the other person’s shoes on.

 Tameka Instagram: @americasfuncoach; ParentingConfidentKids.com; CreateItKidsClub.com