What is self love?

I found this interesting, self love is the conscious decision to put oneself first, but in a commendable manner, NOT in a narcissistic manner. So then how could we tell the difference between an narcissist and someone who just loves themselves? Narcissism is framed by a victim mentality - where everything is happening to you. On the other hand, self love is ownership - where you are taking control of your life for the better