In this week’s episode, we are learning all about the most effective way to talk with a man to actually get him to HEAR you! It’s called FEMININE communication skills. Ladies, remember that the masculine energy man wants to be respected and he wants to be appreciated. So when you’re talking to him and expressing yourself, focus on these two things. You are ALWAYS allowed to state how you FEEL (I actually encourage women to talk about their feelings with a man, not what they think)! Then you will ask him what he THINKS about it.

So if he looks at another woman when you are both out together, you will say “I noticed you looking at that other woman when we were at dinner and I felt disrespected and hurt.” You can keep going and state “It makes me feel as if I’m not enough for you or I am not as attractive as other women which makes me feel rejected.” Then follow up with “What do you think about that?”

It’s important that you stay on YOUR side of the street! When starting your sentences, they should begin with “I” and not “You”; that shifts blame on to the man and he will immediately get defensive and begin to shut down. You won’t feel heard and may even feel angry and nothing will get better that way. Focus on how his behavior makes you FEEL, and express that to him. And when you ask him what he thinks, then just listen. Stay open and listen to understand, not just to respond.

The feminine energy woman gets what she wants by knowing what she DOESN’T want. Feel free to express this to the man in your life, and again ask him what he thinks about it. Feminine communication is respectful AND assertive. You may also express what you want or need from your man by stating how you feel about a certain situation or circumstance, and then tell him what you need and then ask him what he thinks.

If your man asks you directly what your thoughts are about where you want to eat, what you like, and what you prefer, by all means, tell him. It’s giving unsolicited advice that will come off as disrespectful. So when you are riding in the car with him and he seems lost, sit back and relax, look at your phone and allow him to figure out how to get you there. This is a great exercise in trust, and leaning back!

Check out this book by Rachael Jayne Groover called Powerful and Feminine: How to Increase Your Magnetic Presence and Attract the Attention you Want.

Also, here is a very useful download of the “Words Men Want To Hear From a Women” worksheet. Click here.