In this episode, Bill and Marty interview Morgan Monte, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Level 3 practitioner and co-author of the Parts Work Guidebook, joined by her Labradoodle Finn. Morgan shares recognizing her neurodivergence in elementary school through social misunderstandings like sarcasm and unspoken context, and how that affected communication during the three-plus-year, five-author book project. They discuss how group ruptures and frustration were repaired by using IFS, including Bill’s “get it done” part becoming controlling and Morgan’s “I don’t belong because I’m different” part withdrawing. Morgan describes IFS training challenges mainly as performance anxiety and fear of evaluation, and how IFS helped her access more Self energy, confidence, clarity, and authenticity.

Chapters:

00:00 Impossible Collaboration

00:59 Meet Morgan and Finn

01:49 Book and Bio Intro

02:49 Locations and Small Talk

04:29 Discovering Neurodivergence

08:47 Mismatch and Breakthroughs

12:48 Learning Sarcasm

16:39 IFS and Neurodivergent Strengths

20:04 Training Anxiety

21:54 Autism Or ADHD

25:05 Labels And Motivation

28:13 Teamwork Speed Mismatch

31:58 Guidebook Excerpts

36:23 Similarities And Big Hearts

39:46 IFS Works For Everyone

40:52 Finding Self Energy

41:44 Closing And Thanks

Links and Resources:

• Parts Work Guidebook - https://partsworkguidebook.com

• True You Podcast Facebook Page -https://www.facebook.com/trueyoupodcast

• True You Podcast Instagram Page -https://www.instagram.com/trueyou.podcast

• Would you like to be a guest on the True You Podcast? - https://calendly.com/listeningisthekey

• Internal Family Systems -https://ifs-institute.com/

• Compassionate Results Coaching -https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/

• Bill’s book, ‘Compassionate Results Guidebook’ - https://compassionateresultsguidebook.com

• ‘Listening is the Key', Dr. Kettelhut’s website -https://www.listeningisthekey.com/

• Marty’s new book, ‘Leadership as Relation’ -https://amzn.to/3KKkCZO

• Marty’s earlier book, ‘Listen… Till You Disappear’ -https://amzn.to/3XmoiZd

• Parts Work Practice - Free IFS Practice Group Sessions -https://www.partsworkpractice.com

• Contact Marty -[email protected]

• Contact Bill -[email protected]