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Episode 57: Permission to Regulate
Host Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to regulate,” defining regulation as balancing the nervous system by moving from fight/flight/fawn/freeze into a calm, present, parasympathetic state so reactions aren’t driven by unresolved past pain. Brandon explains dysregulation as being emotionally stuck in unprocessed experiences that create triggers, leading to outsized reactions, dissociation, catastrophizing, and distorted narratives. They illustrate this with money/financial stress (scarcity, shame, past hardship resurfacing) and relationship patterns (betrayal wounds, hypervigilance, sabotage, overusing therapy labels). The episode outlines practices to create safety in the body—breathing, grounding, journaling, meditation, exercise, state-shifting, reducing pressure, and preparing before action—plus a feedback-loop approach of “regulate before, act, then regulate after.” Brandon also describes his “Lightning Process” coaching framework to neutralize tension, depersonalize stories, update beliefs, and build freedom and alignment, and invites listeners to book a free strategy session at brandonth.com and follow him on social platforms.
00:00 Welcome and Catch Up
00:39 Why Regulation Matters
01:50 Defining Dysregulation
02:53 Nervous System Reset
05:37 Updating Old Coping
07:26 Money Trigger Spiral
10:16 Relationship Baggage
14:23 Creating Safety in Body
16:14 Regulate Before Action
20:33 Athlete Mindset Reps
21:56 Challenge the Narrative
22:35 Curiosity Over Shame
23:41 Feedback Loop Growth
24:41 Journaling And Meditation
25:50 State Change Before Action
27:54 Preparation Lowers Pressure
28:24 Lightning Coaching Framework
33:26 Depersonalize And Reframe
35:55 Neutralize Past Emotions
37:16 Key Takeaways Regulation
41:13 Alignment And Letting Go
42:36 Coaching And Where To Find
44:01 Final Sign Off
🔗 LINKS:
Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/
Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/
TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk
https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/
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By Brandon Thielk and Holly DeschenesHost Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to regulate,” defining regulation as balancing the nervous system by moving from fight/flight/fawn/freeze into a calm, present, parasympathetic state so reactions aren’t driven by unresolved past pain. Brandon explains dysregulation as being emotionally stuck in unprocessed experiences that create triggers, leading to outsized reactions, dissociation, catastrophizing, and distorted narratives. They illustrate this with money/financial stress (scarcity, shame, past hardship resurfacing) and relationship patterns (betrayal wounds, hypervigilance, sabotage, overusing therapy labels). The episode outlines practices to create safety in the body—breathing, grounding, journaling, meditation, exercise, state-shifting, reducing pressure, and preparing before action—plus a feedback-loop approach of “regulate before, act, then regulate after.” Brandon also describes his “Lightning Process” coaching framework to neutralize tension, depersonalize stories, update beliefs, and build freedom and alignment, and invites listeners to book a free strategy session at brandonth.com and follow him on social platforms.
00:00 Welcome and Catch Up
00:39 Why Regulation Matters
01:50 Defining Dysregulation
02:53 Nervous System Reset
05:37 Updating Old Coping
07:26 Money Trigger Spiral
10:16 Relationship Baggage
14:23 Creating Safety in Body
16:14 Regulate Before Action
20:33 Athlete Mindset Reps
21:56 Challenge the Narrative
22:35 Curiosity Over Shame
23:41 Feedback Loop Growth
24:41 Journaling And Meditation
25:50 State Change Before Action
27:54 Preparation Lowers Pressure
28:24 Lightning Coaching Framework
33:26 Depersonalize And Reframe
35:55 Neutralize Past Emotions
37:16 Key Takeaways Regulation
41:13 Alignment And Letting Go
42:36 Coaching And Where To Find
44:01 Final Sign Off
🔗 LINKS:
Free Strategy Session: https://brandonthielk.com/
Newsletter Signup: https://brandonthielk.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonthielk/
TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bthielk
https://www.instagram.com/permissiontoevolvepodcast/