The more we resist and attempt to hide our flaws and imperfections, the more detrimental we are to our well-being and sense of wholeness. Once we learn to accept, and even embrace our flaws, they can become a source of courage, or strength. When we speak about our perceived imperfections, they hold less of a grip on our reality. Instead of our scars being a source of embarrassment or shame, they can become part of our story, by accepting and acknowledging them. Once these stories lose the negative charge behind them, you will notice they don’t affect you as much. You lose your attachment to their story. Another misperception I believe that we hold is that others notice our flaws as much as we do. In general, I believe this is not true. I believe we put our own flaws up on a pedestal, energize them, and give them our focused attention. Other people are too busy highlighting their own flaws that they truly don’t take the time to admire yours. 

How can you practice accepting and embracing your flaws? Practice makes perfect. Instead of focusing on all the details of “what is wrong with me?”, instead, choose to widen your lens and view the bigger picture. Focus on your many other amazing qualities, instead of your one or two flaws. Keep in mind, you are not defined by your scars. How much power you allow them to have over you is the attention and energy you choose to give them. If you keep feeding them energy, they will continue to grow. If you cut off the source of their energy, they will dissolve. Focus on your positive traits and forget the thoughts that don’t serve you. Be grateful that you are here to enjoy this human experience.