Cultivate Your Inner Goddess

In this episode, we will discuss some factors that might help you to decide when it’s time to quit. 

I don’t consider myself a quitter, but once in a while, you need to know when to “throw in the towel”. Sometimes it’s not feasible to continue what you are doing at your own detriment. 

What are some reasons you might choose to quit?

1. You are just plain tired. You have exhausted your time and energy and you find that what you are doing is draining you. You don’t feel like you can continue. 

2. You are not seeing the results you want. Sometimes things feel like an exercise in futility. No matter how much you put into a project, you feel like the needle is not progressing and the project feels endless. 

3. Your project no longer serves its purpose. Sometimes you might begin a project with one intention, but get sidetracked or lose your focus. Once your purpose is no longer there, it may not make sense to continue with the project. It may be time to refocus, or perhaps stop all together. 

Some reasons you may choose to persevere.

What is the sunken cost fallacy?

A sunken cost challenge.

Do you show kindness and compassion towards yourself? What kind of thoughts

do you think about yourself?

I’ll mention some items that may want to improve upon. These are personal and only you can decide for yourself if these things are already good or excellent for you. 

1. Your relationships. Relationships evolve and change over time. Have you evaluated your relationships recently? It could be a relationship with your friends, significant other, or family members. If you don’t find these relationships supportive or enriching your spirit, it might be time to work on improving these relationships. Relationships should be fulfilling  and nurturing with people who have your best interest in mind. 

2. Your relationship with money. Money, or lack of money can make life stressful, but in my opinion, money is a tool that can be used to make life easier. After you pay for your necessities, if you have anything left over, you get to decide what you can spend it on to make your life easier. You might not enjoy budgeting, but it’s an invaluable skill to have and there is usually room for improvement in this area.  

3. Your physical health. There are many ways you can improve your physical health. I was surprised that I was eating so much processed food, that some people don’t consider food. It’s more chemicals and lab created concoctions to keep you eating more. Exercise is also important to help keep you grounded and reduce stress. 

If your goal is to shift from good to excellent, listen for 5 tips.

Here are 5 Tips to help you find your voice:

1. Learn to communicate effectively to other people. Articulate your message so that it is clear and easily understood by the receiver. If your message is unclear or confusing, do your best to rephrase it another way so the recipient can understand it. It takes one person to give a message and another person to receive the message clearly.  

2. Speak up. Don’t fall silent. State your opinions honestly and don’t automatically agree with people to appease them. This one is challenging because some people have strong personalities, and you might feel intimidated by them. That’s okay because practice makes perfect. You are entitled to your own opinion, which is your opinion, so practice learning to standing firm on that. 

3. Learn to ask for what you want or don’t want. Other people are not mind readers and might not know what you need or want. If you practice speaking what you want in words out loud to another person, you are much more likely to get it. If you are clear about what you want, it takes the guesswork out for the other person. 

4. Start leaving reviews about your experiences with restaurants and stores. I have discovered that Google ratings, Amazon reviews, Yelp, and other feedback tools are a great way to reinforce a positive experience, and also to share feedback if your expectations were not met. That way, your disappointment gets to be expressed and you don’t end up holding negative energy within your body. 

5. Vote. Your voice is reflected in your political vote. Your chosen representatives make the laws in the area where you live.  Every vote counts and it’s up to you to express yourself by voting. You don’t solely vote with a ballot. As a consumer, you vote by supporting companies and shopping at stores. You vote by supporting them with your dollar, or boycotting them if they do not support your values.

Daniela responds to the following questions:

1. Please share your insight into why for the average person, 90% of your daily action is completely counterproductive to achieving your goals and desires.

2. I recently listened to an audio book on astral travel. Some listeners may only believe in what they can experience in the physical experience, what they touch, hear, smell, and see. What is your take on other dimensional planes of quantum existence?

3. What are your thoughts about energy healing modalities?

4. One of the themes of the Cultivate Your Inner Goddess Podcast is Empowerment. What tips do you have to help our listeners be in a more empowered state?

5. You try to encourage people to “play your way through life and success because life is just a game anyways.

You can contact Daniela at her website: https://danielasulek.com/

Please welcome today's Guest, Saline Richards. She lives on Long Island New York and works at a cancer hospital in NYC. Saline, can you discuss how you became the victim of a scam? 

If you have been scammed by Passive CBD Vending or know someone who has been, please contact me. We plan gather supporters together to hold an anti-scammers rally in Clayton, North Carolina.

If you have been the victim of a scam, or know someone who has been, please come out to support us. Even if you have never been scammed, but want a company to know that unscrupulous business practices are NOT OK, please come and advocate with us. We will make signs and picket. I attended the Women's rally in Washington DC in 2017 and that was a lot of fun. The ralliers packed the route so tightly that there was nowhere to march.

Please come meet and support us, also please spread the word. I will be announcing the rally date and itinerary in a future episode.

5 tips that can help improve your meditation practice include:  

1. Bringing it back to basics. Your mind is accustomed to constant stimulation through television, music, and your phone. Limiting technology may seem like torture, but throughout history people have not have cell phones and survived just fine. The simple, but not easy task of solely concentrating only on your breath and repeating 3 syllables may seem like an insult to your intelligent brain! You are too smart for your own good. 

2. Don’t take the bait. Once your mind starts to wander, as you know it will… and starts thinking about what’s on your to-do list, that incident at work last week, or your plans for your next vacation. Stop It! Stay present. Simply observe your thoughts, however don’t get involved with them. Thoughts have a tendency to go crazy, jumping from this topic to that topic. It’s entertaining to just watch the thoughts, like a soap opera. 

3. Practice in a comfortable environment. Your environment is important to cultivate a successful meditation practice. Physical comfort is important, with a straight spine, so the energy can flow freely throughout your body. Find a comfortable pillow or chair to sit on, otherwise, you’ll spend your meditation thinking about how uncomfortable you are. If you meditate in the same spot, your area develops a nice calm energy that you may be able to notice when you enter the room. 

4. Find the style of meditation that is a good fit for you. You could choose to do a silent meditation or a voice-guided meditation. A guided meditation is a good place to start. The important part is maintaining a consistent practice. Once you become more advanced, you can try silent meditation. The silence will most likely drive you crazy when you begin, however with practice you will improve.

5. Develop a routine. It is more beneficial to practice a few minutes a day, rather than a few times a week for a longer duration. Meditation trains your mind not to go crazy when something happens. Instead of reacting, these few seconds train your mind to respond instead.

What is the Emotion Code and how does it work? The Emotion Code was created by Dr. Bradley Nelson utilizing applied kinesiology in muscle testing to answer questions from your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is your supercomputer. You can go back and listen to episode 8: The Power of Your Subconscious Mind for a refresher. Once the information that lies within your subconscious mind is brought forth to your conscious mind, you are allowed to release it. The process is similar to demagnetizing a credit card. The “stuck'' energy can then be released.

You have many tools at your disposal when it comes to holding yourself and others accountable. What is accountability and why is it important? The dictionary defines accountability as the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s actions. I separate accountability into two parts. The first part being self accountability- the willingness to take responsibility for your own actions. The second piece is accountability for others whom you allow into your life. Accountability is a practice that can enable you to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself and others. 

Let’s begin with self accountability. 

How do you hold yourself accountable when you say you are going to do something? Does it get done? If your New Year’s Resolution is to lose 10 pounds and keep it off for the year, will you make time for the gym? Do you have the discipline to create and maintain an eating plan? How will you hold yourself accountable? Ultimately, you are the only person responsible for your own actions, and in this case, the result will be either losing 10 lbs or less. 

Accountability is an action. Nobody can accept responsibility for your own actions and results other than you. You know this. I know this. You cannot cheat yourself and the scale won’t lie. It knows if you are not going to the gym or following your eating plan. The results you get on the scale are a product of your calories in versus calories burned. Taking responsibility for meeting your goals or not is a big step in recognizing that you are the only person who holds the key to either meet or not to meet your goals.

A healthy response to an emotion is to feel and express that emotion, and allow the emotion to pass. Let’s take grief for example. If a loved one passes away and you choose to avoid your feelings of grief by avoiding the funeral and work extra, your body and mind will not have the opportunity to process that emotion of grief. The emotional energy is neither processed nor released. If there is too much resistance, or if an emotion is too intense, the energy of the emotion can become stuck in your body, leading to other imbalances. 

There are healthy ways to express emotions. In my opinion, the best way to process an emotion is to feel it, however that comes with challenge of dealing with feeling your emotions in real time. You could choose to talk about how you are feeling with others. You could exercise to get your aggression out. I believe the worst thing you can do with an emotion is not to process the emotion and repress it. Emotions are signs and signals from your body. They are trying to send a message. Don’t ignore them. Emotions are meant to be felt and expressed. 

It’s unnatural to avoid your own emotions and pretending like they don’t exist. Like I said, I’m an expert in avoiding my emotions. Emotions are complex and there is no one size fits all for coping with them. Some people have a natural ability to manage their emotions seamlessly. Some folks are highly attuned to their own emotions, and are able to pick up on read other peoples emotions as well. It’s very easy for them.  

For some us, it requires practice and building skills to become better at managing our emotions. The process becomes easier with practice. You might not have even noticed that emotions can cause triggers that may drive you to certain behaviors, including addictions.