Cultivate Your Inner Goddess

Do you know that your subconscious mind is responsible for 90% of your behavior, and you are probably not even aware of it? What is your subconscious mind? Your subconscious mind is the portion of your brain that runs outside of your awareness. Your brain would be overwhelmed by all the sensory information that requires processing, so only the information relevant for you, in this very moment passes through to your conscious mind, the part you are aware of. I hope this makes sense. In essence, it’s a partition of your mind. 

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Five Key Points for Effective Communication

Listen. Really listen to what the other party is trying to say without thinking about how you plan to respond. Pay attention to the words, tone, and body language of the person you are communicating with. Ask yourself: “What is this person trying to tell me?” Attempt to be a receptive. Try not to attack, blame, or criticize the person who is trying to communicate with you. Ideally, you’d want to be able to provide a safe, non-judgemental space, to allow the other person to speak honestly without filtering.   

Repeat the message you believe you are hearing. Paraphrase what you believe the sender is trying to communicate. This will confirm that you understood the message and provide an opportunity to ask questions to clarify, if needed. For example, “So what I’m hearing is that you need 15 minutes of quiet time after you arrive home to unwind, before I speak to you, is that correct?” The sender will be able to confirm the point of his or her message.

People think differently than you do. Keep in mind that people have their own viewpoints and internal representations of the world. Your view creates your reality, and their view creates theirs. The person you are communicating with, might have a different representation of the world than you. Common representational systems are visual (sight), auditory (sounds), kinesthetic (feeling), and audio digital (self talk and making sense of the world).  An example of self talk is “I need to process this information”, or “I know exactly what you are talking about” 

Clarify your message and keep it simple. Use language that gets your point accross without being too complex, or difficult to understand. Keep vocabulary appropriate to your audience. Sometimes simple can be the most effective. 

Understand your communication style. Men and women have different  communication styles. What is the purpose of your communications? Is one person seeking to be listened to, and understood, or is he or she looking for a solution to a problem? Men, in general tend to be direct communicators, and in general, women tend to be indirect. I typically am an indirect communicator. I give hints and clues without directly asking, however, when I know I need to get something done quickly and effectively, I make a conscious transition to direct communication style.

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The more we resist and attempt to hide our flaws and imperfections, the more detrimental we are to our well-being and sense of wholeness. Once we learn to accept, and even embrace our flaws, they can become a source of courage, or strength. When we speak about our perceived imperfections, they hold less of a grip on our reality. Instead of our scars being a source of embarrassment or shame, they can become part of our story, by accepting and acknowledging them. Once these stories lose the negative charge behind them, you will notice they don’t affect you as much. You lose your attachment to their story. Another misperception I believe that we hold is that others notice our flaws as much as we do. In general, I believe this is not true. I believe we put our own flaws up on a pedestal, energize them, and give them our focused attention. Other people are too busy highlighting their own flaws that they truly don’t take the time to admire yours. 

How can you practice accepting and embracing your flaws? Practice makes perfect. Instead of focusing on all the details of “what is wrong with me?”, instead, choose to widen your lens and view the bigger picture. Focus on your many other amazing qualities, instead of your one or two flaws. Keep in mind, you are not defined by your scars. How much power you allow them to have over you is the attention and energy you choose to give them. If you keep feeding them energy, they will continue to grow. If you cut off the source of their energy, they will dissolve. Focus on your positive traits and forget the thoughts that don’t serve you. Be grateful that you are here to enjoy this human experience.

How has your Goddess experience been thus far? Everyone fibbs a little. Some people fib a lot. I don’t believe that most of us have malicious intentions behind fibbing.  

After all, how often have you pretended to like someone, when you truly don’t? 

How many times have you worn a fake smile, when you were sad, or annoyed? 

How many times have you pretended to be happy, when you felt depressed and alone? 

The leap from truth into falsehood can be a simple transition. It is easy to lie to ourselves. It takes little effort to bury your head in the sand and live in a state of denial. What can be challenging is to truly reflect upon your true feelings and to be honest with yourself.

A Goddess is the embodiment of power. How might she use her power? Feminine strength includes the qualities of compassion, love, the ability to heal, to forgive, and to connect. 

What is your definition of feminine power? Your answer may be revealed by your mind, body, and spiritual connection. 

Women of today, are literal Superwomen. They are experts at navigating work, coordinating childcare, cooking, cleaning, shopping- they do it all, while maintaining sanity. Have you ever struggled to open a sealed jar? Give that jar to a mom, and she’ll pop that that sucker open with one hand, while carrying a baby in the other. It’s like mom’s have super-power strength. I give big kudos to all the moms out there. 

Femininity, in a cultural context, is the set of behaviors that are taught by society. Being feminine, is the role, one would play. What is the traditional feminine role? History records women as followers of their female intuition, highly emotional, nurturers and supportive. Women were known to be the gentle,  harmonious, empathic, and sensitive. What they didn’t document is that women were also clever, smart, and ambitious. 

Queens and empresses reigned over their respective territories. Cleopatra, Queen of Egypt is one of the best known female rulers. In Greek mythology, Helen was the catalyst for the Trojan War. Wars over women- Now that’s the kind of girl power I am talking about...the power to topple an empire.

History has been greatly influenced by women. Some women sought sole power and control. Others co-led with men. Some women pretended to act and dressed like men, so they could partake in activities that women were not to, like fight in battle. Women maintained a sphere of influence, although they are largely absent in historical records.  

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In what ways do YOU feel disempowered? Do you feel taken advantage of because you never learned to say no? Are you feeling overwhelmed because you do everything by yourself, while others don’t contribute their fair share? Do you feel like you rarely get the outcomes you want? 

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Practice keeping your mind in check. When negative thoughts arise, question them. Is this true? Is this always true? Can you think of a time when this wasn’t true? Creating a habit of questioning your thoughts will get you out of the funk of allowing your thoughts to run wild. Your thoughts are powerful, and have momentum behind them. What you believe creates your reality. Meditation is a practice that helps calm and train the mind.

While you are in bed, before you sleep, spend 3 minutes doing the following:

Minute One : silencing your mind. Drop your to do list. Drop the remnants of your stressful day. Silence is golden. Try not to think of anything at all. If you can’t clear your mind, You can try repeating the word “OM” in your mind, a vibrationally healing sound. Just repeat OM for one minute. 

Minute Two: tune into your body. Experience what is happening. What is going on in your gut area? Is there tension? Do you feel your tummy digesting food? Observe what is happening in your heart area. Does your heart feel warm? Does it feel like it’s radiating energy? Do you sense your heartbeat? How do your limbs feel? Are your feet cold? Are your neck and shoulders tight?Just observe your body and feel it. 

Minute Three: Spirit connection: Say a brief prayer of gratitude to whatever higher power you believe in. For example: Thank you divine Creator for this beautiful human experience today. I was blessed to experience peace, love, and joy today. Say this with intention, and you will strengthen your connection with your spirit self. 

To build this connection habit, it begins with 2 weeks of continuing this daily 3 minute exercise. 

Are you ready to connect the whole you? I believe you can. I believe in you.

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If you don’t like the direction your life is going- — career, relationship, health, you have the power to reach for the steering wheel, and guide your life in the direction you want it to go. You have more input than you believe. It takes time for the dust to settle and to readjust towards your new charted course. At times, doing what serves your highest purpose may be challenging, but it will also be rewarding. You might get sidetracked, or take detours, but in the end, you will pull through. I will provide you with some tools and resources in this podcast.

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My vision for The Cultivate Your Inner Goddess podcast is to inspire and empower you. Giving you tools to work towards a sense of wholeness--- connection, healing emotional wounds, and addressing misperceptions about yourself. 

It’s an inner journey, involving your mind, body, and spirit, as well as an outward journey, learning about healthy communication and relationships.

You exist in a state of impermanence. Life moves, shifts, and changes. The only certainty is that life will change, and you will evolve. Are you one to accept responsibility for the direction of your life, or will you pass the buck and play the role of a victim? You hold the power. You have the choice. 

Cultivate Your Inner Goddess is created as a resource to assist you in navigating change, especially If you do not have a positive role model in your life. If you don’t have someone who you feel comfortable sharing your truth with, this show is for you. Please think of me as a mentor, or coach, helping you build a solid foundation, so you can be your authentic self. Sometimes, this role includes tough love, things you don’t necessarily want to hear, but need to listen to.  

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