(Trigger warning: miscarriage, domestic violence)

What happens to a stepmum when the whole family system is in survival mode?
When there’s court, withheld contact, trauma, ASD needs, transition day meltdowns, and a partner trying to hold everything together with guilt-soaked hands?

In today’s episode, Jean (not her real name) shares her raw, complex and human journey on Stepmum Space.

Across this conversation we explore:

• What it’s like to fall in love with someone whose ex weaponises contact
•  How ASD, trauma, and loyalty binds shape a child’s behaviour
•  The emotional toll of being blamed for things that never happened
•  Step-sibling dynamics when both partners bring a child into the relationship
•  The guilt, resentment and relief stepmums rarely say out loud
•  How to stay connected to your partner through the chaos
• Why stepmums often think “maybe they’d be better off without me” — and how to move past it
• When the ex blocks therapy: what it does to the child and the stepmum
• How to stay connected to your partner through chaos
• The surprising moments that helped rebuild trust, safety and calm
• What children really understand about conflict, loyalty binds, and transitions

Jean speaks openly about miscarriages, trauma responses, domestic abuse in the wider system, and the ripple effects that land in a stepmum’s lap—often silently, often without choice.

This episode gives you:

• Emotional reassurance
• Practical insights
• A deeper understanding of trauma behaviours
• A real-life story of survivable — and workable — blended family chaos
• Permission to feel what you’re feeling

🔥 If this episode hit a nerve… The January Stepmum Reset Workshop is for you.

If you’re listening and thinking:

• “This is my life.”
• “I’m exhausted from trying to keep the peace.”
• “I love my partner, but the system is breaking me.”
• “I want 2026 to feel different.”

Then the Stepmum Reset Workshop is the space you’ve been craving.The workshop is practical, psychologically grounded, and genuinely transformative. Spaces are limited.
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