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Episode 63- If you loved me...

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Whether you've said this phrase in the past or have been at the receiving end of it, a request that includes "if you loved me..." does not benefit anyone's needs. So how can we move from manipulation and feelings of obligation to mutual love and respect for each other's needs?

In this episode we cover...

  • Why the phrase "if you loved me..." is an attempt at emotional manipulation
  • Which needs are being compromised through saying this phrase
  • The difference between getting these needs met in a red spectrum way and a green spectrum way
  • We explain the disempowerment dynamic behind this behaviour
  • Understanding why saying this phrase to children is damaging
  • How this behaviour is relevant to boundaries
  • How agreed-upon principles can aid conversations about behaviour
  • How making people feel like they don't have a choice can build resentment and compromise several needs
  • How shifting demands to approaching things in a selfirst way can be an antidote to that
  • How we can use the desire to manipulate as a tool to examine our needs
  • How to understand and examine your own patterns around this behaviour
  • How to navigate the situation if you're at the receiving end of manipulation
  • How boundaries are important in these instances
  • How "if you loved me..." doesn't have a place in a loving relationship
  • Understanding the role of meeting our own needs can have in healing this dynamic

    • The Episodes we reference in this episode are:

    Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn't matter

    Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

    Episode 61 - Friendship series - Clearing niggles

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