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Episode 65 - People Pleasing Series - The root of most people pleasing

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Most people have found themselves engaging in people-pleasing behavior at some point in their lives, but not many of us realize that the reasons for this lie in our The Universal Needs. In this first episode of the series, we delve into the roots of people-pleasing and how we can start to heal those behaviors starting with small changes.

TRIGGER WARNING: Mention of domestic abuse

  • In this episode we cover...Where patterns around your needs emerge from
  • We define the six different types of trauma in terms of needs
  • How past traumas, especially in childhood, shaped your relationship to our needs and how this can affect people pleasing behavior
  • How people pleasing can compromise many of your needs
  • The importance of processing traumas and how doing so can benefit your needs
  • We explain how the value need could be compromised in seemingly opposite ways, but are actually two sides of the same coin
  • How children internalize trauma
  • How and why people pleasing can be an unconscious drive to get your needs met
  • Why is it a problem to get your needs met from others and how this is relevant to codependency
  • Reminder: "You are enough and you are worthy simply because you exist"
  • How marginalized communities experience different levels and layers of trauma and how people pleasing can emerge from these traumas
  • One of the best ways to meet your value need
  • How your personal power need is affected through people pleasing
  • The ways in which your survival need and choices can be determined by privilege
  • How you can shift out of people pleasing behavior
  • How setting boundaries relate to this behavior and how it leads to that DING, DING, DING!!
  • How to start setting realistic boundaries, even with yourself

    • Episode references:

    Episode 4 - Well that wasn't his 'ducking' responsibility, was it?

    Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series (1) - The difference between guilt and shame

    Other references:

    Clark doll social experiment -

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZryE2bqwdk

    Ted Talk by David R. Williams - How racism makes us sick

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzyjDR_AWzE

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