The YouSchool podcast episode entitled “How to Help Your Kids Find a Good Life” starts with Scott Schimmel’s message about the deep anxiety of parents concerning whether their kids will live a good life. As teenagers are in the process of identity formation, they try on different identities and personas to figure out who they are and what’s important to them. Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children’s lives by modeling a good life and helping them find true acceptance of who they are. The deepest longing of every human is to have authentic congruence, which means living life fully as oneself. Schimmel discusses the three options that guide a person’s pursuit of a good life: getting a lot, doing a lot, and impressing a lot. While these three things are not wrong, focusing on them alone may lead to an endless search for more, which is not the good life. The good life is found in authentic congruence, where one’s decisions align with who they are and who they want to be.

The exercise mentioned in the episode is: "What matters most to me is... because..."