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Episode 67 - People Pleasing Series - The problem with putting others first

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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 67 - People Pleasing Series - The problem with putting others first is now LIVE!

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Society applauds people-pleasers and praises their “selfless” acts. In reality, when we put ourselves last on our agenda, our needs - especially our value need - get severely compromised. Today's episode explains how there is a far better way than to get our needs met... meeting them in a selfirst way!

In this episode we cover...

  • Why we often operate from a place of putting others first
  • How past experiences and traumas perpetuates people pleasing behavior
  • How this affects all of your relationships
  • How your value need is affecting and being affected by this behavior
  • We explain how it is possible to set an example in a more supportive and constructive way for everyone’s needs
  • The consequences of not knowing how to meet your needs
  • How you can start to change this dynamic right now
  • Why identifying as a people pleaser can be so problematic
  • Why being "nice" can be detrimental to your needs and other's needs
  • What the difference is between being nice and being kind
  • The importance of focusing on the needs that are driving the people pleasing behavior
  • How to start shifting from identity to behavior
  • Why it is important to start meeting your own needs, especially your value need... in a selfirst way
  • How some relationships transition when you stop people pleasing
  • How to engage your personal power need to create a different dynamic
  • Why we are able show up better for other people when our needs are met
  • Why need trumps choice
  • The steps you can take to move away from people pleasing behavior
  • How people pleasing behavior can influence your peers, children or people who might be watching you and how it can cause a ripple effect

    • Episode references:

    Episode 2 - The wisdom of Joey Tribbiani

    Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility

    The episode we refer to where we speak about the relationship orbits is Episode 17 - What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come.

    Other references:

    "That's the problem with putting others first, you yourself taught them that you come second" - Ranjini Banerjee

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