Better Because of Divorce

🔥 Episode 67: You're Not Going Backwards - You're Spiraling Upward


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You're doing well, making progress - and then a trigger hits and the pain floods back. You think: "I'm going backwards. I'm failing. I haven't healed at all."

But what if you're not sliding backwards - you're spiraling upward.

Julie dismantles the lie of linear healing and introduces the truth: healing is loopy, not a straight line. Think about the shape of a loop - it goes forward, curves back, then swoops up. Then backwards again, then swoops higher. From above it looks like you're retracing the same ground, but from the side you can see you're moving UPWARD.

When a trigger comes back, it's not evidence you haven't healed - it's evidence you're ready to heal at a deeper level. You're revisiting so you can process the next layer. The fact that it came back up means you're strong enough now to handle it.

Time Alone Doesn't Heal: You can be five years out and still stuck, still triggered, still suffering - if you haven't done the work. Or you can be in the divorce process or just a few months out and spiraling upward - because you're actively healing. The difference isn't time. It's the work.

When you do the work, the spiral moves upward. When you don't, you just spin in the same place.

Why the Sisterhood Accelerates Healing:

In community, things happen that don't happen in isolation:

  • Other women see evidence of your spiral upward that you can't see ("Remember last time? Look how differently you're handling it now")
  • You get tools and support for processing each layer
  • You don't have to figure out "the work" alone - we're doing it together
  • Someone reminds you you're spiraling up when you feel like you're going backwards
  • Coaches guide you through each loop
  • You have accountability to do the work instead of just waiting
  • You see other women healing in spirals too - it normalizes your process
  • The spiral moves faster because you're not doing it alone

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✓ Discover the specific gap standing between where you are now and where you want to be. You will leave the workshop knowing exactly what to do to close that gap. 

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About Julie:

After 23 years of marriage and a betrayal she never saw coming, Julie  found herself starting over from scratch. No roadmap. No guarantee it would be okay. Just the decision that her life was worth rebuilding.

Julie is now a Certified Life Coach, a Health and Wellness Coach, and founder of the FIERCE Sisterhood — a transformative community for divorced women ready to rebuild their lives from the inside out. She hosts the Better Because of Divorce podcast because she believes divorced women deserve more than surface-level positivity. They deserve real, lasting transformation.

She knows what it costs to start over. And she knows what's possible on the other side.

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Better Because of DivorceBy Julie Steed