We've said it before and we will say it again and probably a few more times. They are exe's for a reason! It is rare to go back to an Ex and have it work out. Sure, there's some miraculous cases that work out in Hallmark magic, but most times neither one of you have done the work to figure out why it didn't work the first go-round. If you haven't then you might as well shine up your hamster wheel running shoes until you're ready to jump off again!