Shower Talk! w/ Tina and Norm

Apparently, being able to talk to your partner about anything isn’t normal. Who knew?

After being told that our relationship isn’t “normal” because we communicate openly about pretty much everything, we started wondering… what exactly are we calling normal?

In this episode, we talk about how couples are told they shouldn’t say, shouldn’t ask, or just aren’t “allowed” to talk about certain things—and how, over time, those boundaries can start to feel completely normal.

But just because something has been normalized doesn’t necessarily mean it’s healthy.

So grab your partner (unless you’re not allowed to listen together 😏) and join us as we ask: Are we really the weird ones… or have you just been normalized?

Music by Brendhan 'Maestro' Sears

We have heard it a million times. Whether it was your grandpappy that told you it was hard and it was a lot of work, or whether you saw a Gen Z say it on Love Is Blind. It's all about perspective and what you want out of your relationship. If you think that effort is hard, then you are setting yourself up for some misery and disappointment! It's as hard as you want to make it, and if you are working against yourself or your partner, you can bet that it is going to be hard! It doesn't have to be this way.

Music by Brendhan 'Maestro' Sears

We've said it before and we will say it again and probably a few more times. They are exe's for a reason! It is rare to go back to an Ex and have it work out. Sure, there's some miraculous cases that work out in Hallmark magic, but most times neither one of you have done the work to figure out why it didn't work the first go-round. If you haven't then you might as well shine up your hamster wheel running shoes until you're ready to jump off again!

Are you a person that seems to always find the person that needs you in their life to help them get to where they need to be, and then once they are there they leave?? Congratulations, you already know this about yourself! What's next, you might ask? Well, you start by knocking it the hell off. Then you dig in and figure out why you feel the need to do it, because it comes from somewhere. Then you fix it, and pay attention to YOUR patterns and how to avoid making those same mistakes!

Music by Brendhan 'Maestro' Sears

People talk about being vulnerable, however they still maintain a "walls up" attitude when it comes to opening up. This does not work! It is a direct conflict and we get it, it's hard! It's a risk! You taking a chance on being hurt, again. The problem is, that's life and love. You can't move forward and find your forever person without being vulnerable, open and honest....to everything!

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The weight and influence that we allow social media to carry in our lives is beyond ridiculous. From perceived slights to nuanced likes or dislikes, so many people take these as real and then allow it to create issues in their lives and relationships. Not only friend/work/love relationships, but also our relationships with ourselves. It controls our thoughts and emotions and a lot of times doesn't or shouldn't be reflected as real life.

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How do you scale a mountain? One Step at a time! Sounds cliche, right? Well, the reality is, that it is true. The problem that we have is allowing the task to be overwhelming and we get in our heads and then we just never do anything about it and we stay right where we don't want to be! Doing it in smaller doses gives you a feeling of accomplishment and makes hitting those goals a little easier!!

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Holiday Time is difficult for a lot of folks. Navigating loneliness vs being alone, judgment from family and friends, and even social anxiety and awkward situations makes a lot us not want to go anywhere, however we get upset when we are by ourselves. We can't have it both ways! You have to get out of your own way and fight through some of what you're feeling and allowing yourself to think in order to not be lonely or alone at this time of the year!!! You can do it, seriously, thinking about it more difficult than actually doing the damn thing!!

Collective Illusion is an interesting concept! It deals with conforming to a belief you THINK someone else has, ultimately sacrificing yourself or your authenticity, as well as taking on a belief JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE HAS IT. I bet you think that is weird, but IT...IS...EVERYWHERE! We discuss this concept in this episode and how messed up we think this is and why it's bad for you or your relationship!

Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

With the change of seasons rapidly happening, we wanted to talk about different Seasons of a relationship and how the relationship evolves over time. Some folks want to stay in Spring and others want to live in the comfort of Winter! Where are you and what are you doing to sustain each of those seasons and those adjustments and changes that come along with them?

Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears