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Episode 69: Making Her Moan w/ Daddy Heff
It's 6/9 so we're publishing early! Plus if you're in Los Angeles, come with us... to Melrose Umbrella Co from 6-9p to celebrate!
Daddy Heff is a professional dominant, kink educator and master of the sensual art of impact play from Greensboro, North Carolina where his earliest sex education included school lessons on fallopian tubes, ovaries, sperm and semen, sneaking reads of his mom's risqué novels, flipping through Penthouse Forum stories, and asking a very uncomfortable teacher to explain anal sex after seeing it in a porn video.
In this episode we talk about the connection between moaning, safety and surrender, why BDSM often models communication better than vanilla relationships, and how Daddy Heff uses breath, heart space connection and energetic presence to help people fully let go. We also get into the difference between tops and doms, the importance of vetting and informed consent, how he discovered kink through a dominatrix in Germany, and the moment a birthday spanking turned into the start of his professional domination career. Plus: throat chakras, performance vs presence, why subs need education too, and what it actually takes to create trust inside a scene.
Want more? Check out my DIY course, Fck Like The Movies: https://www.rubyisland.media/course
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Where to find Daddy Heff:
Instagram: @the_real_daddy_heff/
X: @daddy_heff
Where to find Arielle:
Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck
Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle
Episode Cheat Sheet
02:19 BDSM Negotiation, Limits & Scene Safety
04:27 Why Moaning Matters During Sex
07:35 Sexual Shame & Being Told to Stay Quiet
11:38 Nervous System & Relaxation Before Sex
18:10 Why Subs Need Education Too
22:14 The Dangers of Untrained BDSM Play
24:29 Presence, Performance & Energy in Kink
28:34 Dom vs Top & Sub vs Bottom Explained
34:10 Growing Up in Greensboro, NC & Early Sex Education
37:18 Discovering BDSM in Germany
41:49 Learning Impact Play & Finding a Mentor
44:38 The First Paid Domination Session
48:53 Heart Space Connection & Energetic Domination
53:13 Live Demo Stories & Orgasmic Spanking
57:10 Anal Play, Energy Work & Kink Healing
59:47 Teaching Men How to Be Better Dominants
01:03:06 Episode 69 on 6/9
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It's 6/9 so we're publishing early! Plus if you're in Los Angeles, come with us... to Melrose Umbrella Co from 6-9p to celebrate!
Daddy Heff is a professional dominant, kink educator and master of the sensual art of impact play from Greensboro, North Carolina where his earliest sex education included school lessons on fallopian tubes, ovaries, sperm and semen, sneaking reads of his mom's risqué novels, flipping through Penthouse Forum stories, and asking a very uncomfortable teacher to explain anal sex after seeing it in a porn video.
In this episode we talk about the connection between moaning, safety and surrender, why BDSM often models communication better than vanilla relationships, and how Daddy Heff uses breath, heart space connection and energetic presence to help people fully let go. We also get into the difference between tops and doms, the importance of vetting and informed consent, how he discovered kink through a dominatrix in Germany, and the moment a birthday spanking turned into the start of his professional domination career. Plus: throat chakras, performance vs presence, why subs need education too, and what it actually takes to create trust inside a scene.
Want more? Check out my DIY course, Fck Like The Movies: https://www.rubyisland.media/course
_________________________________________________
Where to find Daddy Heff:
Instagram: @the_real_daddy_heff/
X: @daddy_heff
Where to find Arielle:
Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck
Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle
Episode Cheat Sheet
02:19 BDSM Negotiation, Limits & Scene Safety
04:27 Why Moaning Matters During Sex
07:35 Sexual Shame & Being Told to Stay Quiet
11:38 Nervous System & Relaxation Before Sex
18:10 Why Subs Need Education Too
22:14 The Dangers of Untrained BDSM Play
24:29 Presence, Performance & Energy in Kink
28:34 Dom vs Top & Sub vs Bottom Explained
34:10 Growing Up in Greensboro, NC & Early Sex Education
37:18 Discovering BDSM in Germany
41:49 Learning Impact Play & Finding a Mentor
44:38 The First Paid Domination Session
48:53 Heart Space Connection & Energetic Domination
53:13 Live Demo Stories & Orgasmic Spanking
57:10 Anal Play, Energy Work & Kink Healing
59:47 Teaching Men How to Be Better Dominants
01:03:06 Episode 69 on 6/9