With our last podcast, we went back to the basics. We looked up Paul’s definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13 and went through some ways we could apply patience and kindness to our marriages. This week we are talking about what loves isn’t and certain rules we can put in place to help us love our spouse well even during conflict.

We know what love is, now let’s look at what love isn’t.

Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not brag, it is not puffed up, it does not behave inappropriately, it does not seek its own way, it is not provoked, it keeps no account of wrong, it does not rejoice over injustice but rejoices in the truth; it bears all things, it believes all, it hopes all things, it endures all things. Love never fails— 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is not rude or harsh. So how can we have conflict with our spouse but still love them well?

We establish Rules of Engagement for our marriages.

• Create a Delete List- words you will not say during conflict.

• Create Battle Boundaries- a list of rules you should follow during an argument. Warfare has rules. Why should our marriage be any different?

• Dig up the land mines- forgive your spouse for past hurts, and start looking for the good in them

 

If you make rules in times of peace, they will be easier to follow in

times of struggle. ~Alex Payne

 

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