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Episode 77: The Yes Trap: You're Not Overwhelmed, Your Overcommitted
You're not overwhelmed. You're over-committed. And there's a difference — because one happens to you, and the other is a life you built one tiny yes at a time.
In this episode of The Sallie Ogden Show, I go deep on the Yes Trap — the people-pleasing pattern that slowly erodes your sense of self, depletes your decision-making energy, and leaves you asking the question almost every high-achieving woman eventually asks herself: Why do I feel like I'm disappearing?
Here's what I want you to know up front: this is not a personal failing. It's a deeply ingrained survival strategy that worked for you at some point in your life — and is now quietly running parts of your business and your calendar in ways you may not have fully named yet. This episode is about finally seeing it clearly.
We cover:
→ Why saying yes to everything is a trap, not a superpower
→ The Fawn Response — and why it's showing up in your calendar
→ The five invisible scripts driving your over-commitment: please others, be perfect, be strong, try hard, hurry up
→ Decision fatigue, and why you have nothing left for your own choices by the end of the day
→ Why every time you say yes when your body said no, you break a small promise to yourself
→ The time audit: a simple exercise that shows you where your week actually goes
→ Why your calendar is the real story of your priorities — not your goals, not your vision board. Your calendar.
→ The pause that changes everything
You're not broken. The system just wasn't built for this.
If this resonated, I want you to have the whole framework. I've spent years developing the strategies that helped my clients scale past $100k, and for a long time, I only taught them inside my private mastermind at $6,000 a seat. Every tool, every framework, every strategy is now in my e-book: Sell Like You Mean It. Seven proven strategies. One playbook. Built for women founders who are done undercharging and ready to grow.
Get your copy: https://stan.store/sallieogden/p/get-my-ebook-now-y354z8oa
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 — Hook: Why do I feel like I'm disappearing?
01:27 — I was surviving my own schedule and calling it success
01:36 — The Yes Trap defined
05:25 — The client story that changed how I see all of this
09:12 — The chef analogy: how we lose ourselves one yes at a time
🎙️ The Sallie Ogden Show (SOS)
For the parts of life no one prepares you for: the shifts, the setbacks, and the quiet revelations that change everything.
New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one.
Stay connected:
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Website: growwiththebrimm.com
Instagram: @the_brimm
#PersonalGrowth #PeoplePleasing #SayingNo #SelfImprovement #TheYesTrap
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By Sallie Ogden
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You're not overwhelmed. You're over-committed. And there's a difference — because one happens to you, and the other is a life you built one tiny yes at a time.
In this episode of The Sallie Ogden Show, I go deep on the Yes Trap — the people-pleasing pattern that slowly erodes your sense of self, depletes your decision-making energy, and leaves you asking the question almost every high-achieving woman eventually asks herself: Why do I feel like I'm disappearing?
Here's what I want you to know up front: this is not a personal failing. It's a deeply ingrained survival strategy that worked for you at some point in your life — and is now quietly running parts of your business and your calendar in ways you may not have fully named yet. This episode is about finally seeing it clearly.
We cover:
→ Why saying yes to everything is a trap, not a superpower
→ The Fawn Response — and why it's showing up in your calendar
→ The five invisible scripts driving your over-commitment: please others, be perfect, be strong, try hard, hurry up
→ Decision fatigue, and why you have nothing left for your own choices by the end of the day
→ Why every time you say yes when your body said no, you break a small promise to yourself
→ The time audit: a simple exercise that shows you where your week actually goes
→ Why your calendar is the real story of your priorities — not your goals, not your vision board. Your calendar.
→ The pause that changes everything
You're not broken. The system just wasn't built for this.
If this resonated, I want you to have the whole framework. I've spent years developing the strategies that helped my clients scale past $100k, and for a long time, I only taught them inside my private mastermind at $6,000 a seat. Every tool, every framework, every strategy is now in my e-book: Sell Like You Mean It. Seven proven strategies. One playbook. Built for women founders who are done undercharging and ready to grow.
Get your copy: https://stan.store/sallieogden/p/get-my-ebook-now-y354z8oa
⏱️ Chapters:
00:00 — Hook: Why do I feel like I'm disappearing?
01:27 — I was surviving my own schedule and calling it success
01:36 — The Yes Trap defined
05:25 — The client story that changed how I see all of this
09:12 — The chef analogy: how we lose ourselves one yes at a time
🎙️ The Sallie Ogden Show (SOS)
For the parts of life no one prepares you for: the shifts, the setbacks, and the quiet revelations that change everything.
New episodes every week. Subscribe so you don't miss one.
Stay connected:
Newsletter - Further: https://growwiththebrimm.com/furthernewsletter
Website: growwiththebrimm.com
Instagram: @the_brimm
#PersonalGrowth #PeoplePleasing #SayingNo #SelfImprovement #TheYesTrap