In this week’s episode, I’m discussing the mindset women often take into their new relationship or dating experience after a break-up. I’ve been guilty of it and I know you have to! Yes, I’m talking about treating the new potential guy like he is going to hurt you! Or cheat on you. Or ghost you. Or isn’t going to commit. Whatever it is that you last experienced or perhaps in the last few relationships, you think could happen again and so you begin to form what is called the “confirmation bias”.

It’s where you have a thought and you think that thought over and over again and then you (subconsciously) start to co-create that reality for real! You will begin to look for things that will “confirm” what you already know. And before you know it; BOOM!! He’s a liar! Or a cheater! Or just an inconsiderate jerk! And you are SO self-righteous because you just KNEW this would happen, right?

Well, you just created a real live self-fulfilling prophecy; that’s how powerful our thoughts are. I strongly encourage you to use all of that power for GOOD and not EVIL. Start telling yourself that this guy before you; this new guy, is NOT the last guy. He’s different and even better than that, he didn’t come to hurt you (at least not on purpose).

Remember that in order for you to win at love and dating and relationships, you will have to have a paradigm shift. This looks like a fundamental change in your approach or underlying assumptions about love and men. Working with a love mentor or dating coach can help you to identify your “love blocks” and make healthy choices moving forward from a place of consciousness and awareness. If you’re interested in a FREE 15-minute consult, CLICK HERE!