In this week’s episode, I must give you this disclaimer: some toes may be stepped on with this episode! I work with so many female clients and they all say they want a high value, 3 percent man who is over 6 feet tall, is fit, educated and makes 6 figures! Then I have the difficult task of asking them, “What is it about YOU that would make a high-value man want you?” Yes, I know that in the eyes of your mother and your girlfriends you are wonderful, however, a man’s standards are totally different than theirs.

I’ve had to tell my female clients that healthy masculine men don’t necessarily see their degrees, their home, their car, and their high profile career as assets to having a healthy relationship. Don’t get me wrong; a man wants to know that you can take care of yourself if need be and that you’re responsible for your obligations. They want to know that if you have children, they are being well taken care of and they want you to manage the bills in your household in a timely manner.

Most men are initially attracted to what they SEE first. I tell my ladies to accentuate your most feminine qualities and “package” it in a way that is appealing. Soft and sensuous and sweet smelling is a good start! Then follow that up with your feminine communication skills and lots of eye contact and smiles. Lastly, make a memorable impression on a man with your open and receptive and positive attitude. Make him feel good about HIMSELF when he’s with you and you’ve just struck a home run!

I want you to get CLEAR on what it is you say you want, so I am giving you my Self Discovery Relationship Tool. Creating these three lists has the power to change EVERYTHING when it comes to attracting a high value man. Take your time when completing this list. Especially when you are thinking about your needs. Know this; you will NOT get everything you want and you should NOT settle for what you don’t want!