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Episode 89 - What to do when you’re REALLY struggling…

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There are times when life feels impossible to navigate and we feel like there is no way out of our situation. This episode goes through the two things you can focus on during really hard times and the importance of reframing our mindset in these moments.

In this episode, we cover…

  • How it’s important to be gentle with yourself when we’re struggling, feeling hopeless or depressed
  • How feeling in a lower mood or state might just be a consequence of being aware of the events that are happening in the world
  • How being able to meet your own needs doesn’t make everything better, but helps us to cope with reality and also helps us find joy and enjoyment in the midst of what’s happening around us
  • How we are currently living in toxic ecosystems, we have to work much harder to be resourced
  • Through getting our needs met we can help to create an environment that helps everybody get their needs met
  • How meeting your own needs doesn’t make everything good but allows you to be more resourced in a world that depletes us
  • If you’re struggling at the moment, we invite you to be gentle with yourself
  • How there are two things you can focus on in hard times:
    1. The little wins - small things to be grateful for or appreciate
    2. The little steps - what are the little things we can do to make things better for ourselves
    3. How we are taught to find the negatives in our lives and things that are missing and that are going wrong
    4. How we can rewire our brain to focus on the things that are present and that we can be grateful for, no matter how small
    5. The importance of not engaging in toxic positivity 
    6. How little steps can lead to little wins
    7. How in The Universal Needs we take a different approach to “wins” where no one has to “lose”. Also, due to our interconnectedness, if we have wins at someone else’s expense, we compromise our own needs, too
    8. The importance of moving away from the win/lose mentality within ourselves and with respect to other people
    9. The dangers of a downward spiral and the significance of the link between our needs and our actions
    10. How acknowledging yourself helps to meet your needs and leads to the little steps and the the little wins
    11. How asking the question: “what do I have the capacity for?” is key when looking for the little steps 
    12. How focusing on losses can project us into a downward spiral and compromise our needs further
    13. How anything is better than nothing when we’re in the depths of a situation
    14. How looking for the little wins, it can really make a difference
    15. How even if we find ourselves in a space where nothing feels hopeful, we can still reorient what our brains noticing and that is going to make a difference to our lived experience

      16. Episode references:

      The episode in which we mention The Universal Needs Ecosystem is Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough'

      Episode 39 - Just HOW toxic is Toxic Positivity?

      Guilt and shame series: Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame; Episode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguise; Episode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity

      Other references: Please note that the shifting of the language 'ping pong' was because we discovered lately that it has racist meaning, not that it is ableist.

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